My mom relegated "beatings" to my dad. He got me with a garden hose, most of the time a wooden paddle but sometimes the yardstick and most of the time a belt across my butt and as I would walk away I would get a swift hard kick which always landed right between my legs, not on my butt. I love both of my parents.
Got paddled in 5th grade by the Principal for writing on the bathroom walls.
Grew up and married an abusive husband. Broken jaw, burned several times, gun in my mouth with him on the other end more than once, beaten just about daily x 5 years, punched in the face, once punched in the abdomen when I was 4 months pregnant, strangled into unconsciousness once, and barely escaped with my life and my three children w/ the help of a whole bunch of police officers the night we finally 'escaped'.
I am 55 now, and thus far have not killed anyone. In fact I am very passive. Its been 30 some years since the night we got away, and I still remember very minute details about being abused by my ex husband. If asked about it on the stand, I would be giving some detailed examples. She just brushes past things with no detail. For this reason I call BS on the abuse stuff.
jus sayin'.