Yes, I just used that as an example of how things can get blown out of proportion with hindsight. As to the concerns you did raise, I'm afraid I don't take the Hicks family accusations against Hobbs seriously. If there was any truth to them, why weren't they raised at the time? And why do Amanda and Terry's son from his first marriage have a good relationship with him to the extent that they allow him access to their own children?
We could well ask the same of JKM's children, some of whom have remained in contact with him.
Or Pam herself, who stayed with the abuse for how many years? Who knows why people so often do things we ourselves would not do.
As for why concerns of abuse re Amanda weren't raised at the time - Pam says a doctor was consulted, who confirmed vaginal trauma in 1993. Granted, she has not produced documents and I am not aware of any mandatory reports to police (if those existed in AR in 1993, I have no idea), so I can't say for certain it happened - but it's a pretty lie, if it didn't. Made before a judge, so some pretty big perjury as well.
So is the one told by Pam's sister, who walked in on an event that can only be described as flagrant sexual abuse. Can't remember if that went into evidence, but it was a pretty convincing story, plainly told and typical of molester behaviour. Another outrageous lie, if not true.
If none of these things are true, and Pam & co are out for Hobbs' blood in some bizarre and delayed-reaction bid for revenge, then I am happy to drop my suspicions, which I don't enjoy having or thinking about, particularly.
But I can't be sure, so they bother me. So does Chris' behaviour toward Amanda, presently. It's not solid enough to make 'the list' (of verified or very solid circumstantial reasosn for Hobbs to be a good suspect..) but it's worth mentioning as something that personally doesn't sit quite right.
Yes, things can and do get blown out of proportion, no argument there (the masturbation, I agree, is an example of that - probably). But where kids are concerned, I tend to prefer erring on the side of caution and concern for their welfare.
It's fine if we don't agree.