This is sooo true. Susan Smith comes to mind. She bawled and squalled on TV, begged for the return of her boys in between wiping the real tears and blowing her nose and I believed every word she said. Susan Smith showed every emotion most would consider normal for the mother of missing children but this "grief stricken" mother strapped her boys in their car seats and drove them into water so they could drown and just left them.
People react differently to any given situation, there is NO normal.
Whilst I agree that there is no normal, I have some difficulty understanding how one person can have so many variations in demeanor.
Her flat affect when talking of or to Hailey, the opposite when speaking of SA.
The absolute panic that led to her reporting her 13 year old missing without spending much time checking for her in the usual manner.
The absolute calm with which she fails to question Shawn about what happened during those moments she left.
For DAYS she is with Shawn and doesn't ask any questions.
Once he leaves, she would like answers to questions.
LE told her about a 2pm text.
She SAW the 2pm text.
Whilst on NG, those mean LE. (walks off when questions get tough)
Calls LE daily to beg for info. (But failed to beg SA for info)
Gets angry at the media that supplied the affidavits. (Isn't angry that SA isn't talking to LE).
Points toward others who need to be investigated. (But fails to try to clear herself or SA)
Publicly denounces NG as a ratings grabber (But failed to use those ratings to help find Hailey)
BD is a chameleon, ever changing to fit her surroundings.
That is why some of us see her very differently. She is ALL of the things that we see, that's why she is hard to read.
Changing faces, changing stories, words that don't match her actions, manipulative is the single explanation