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Found it posted elsewhere:
http://www.palmbeachpost.com/news/l...es-down-facebook-post/ieKw88W1xQ2n3fyRqaPWbL/
“Understandably, I have now returned to the UK with my daughter to seek the comfort of my friends and family,” Bennett wrote in the June 28 posting, and “must take a step back from the world of social media.”
Within hours, several people posted comments saying they shared his grief and encouraging him, with one saying, “sorry you have had to go through all of this, its (sic) heart breaking.”
But soon others posted comments asking Bennett why he was in such a hurry to leave Florida, denying Hellmann’s family access to the couple’s daughter, born in July 2016. Then several others began posting unsubstantiated allegations and saying “justice will be served.”
Bennett’s post still was up Monday evening. But by 5 a.m. Tuesday, it was gone. Bennett’s most current posting now is the one that, for a long time, had been his last one: an April 4 post showing him with Isabella and the couple’s daughter.
In last week’s posting, Bennett had thanked people who he said have “supported me through this most testing of times” and criticized what he called “negative and derisory comments that have been said and insinuated by people that, surprisingly, are brought by people that I thought would be there to support myself and Emelia.”
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also dicussed here:
While the post does not mention the circumstances of Hellmann's disappearance, Bennett reflects on the relationship he had with his wife.
Bennett thanked people who had 'supported me through this most testing of times'.
In the same post he criticized what he called 'negative and derisory comments that have been said and insinuated by people that, surprisingly, are brought by people that I thought would be there to support myself and Emelia'.
He said that taking 'a time for reflection' might 'lessen the negativity that I have encountered in this emotionally charged situation and hope in the future a reconciliation will occur for all parties concerned, if not for my sake but for Emelia's'.
Bennett said he wanted to stress 'how much Isabella meant to me and to Emelia and it is now my responsibility to ensure her legacy is never forgotten'.
He added: 'Contrary to statements given in the press and social media, Isabella and I loved each other very much, she was the soulmate I had always searched for, she made my life complete.
'To think I must move forward without her in my life is something I never wanted to contemplate.'
Bennett took the post down from Facebook some time before 5am on Tuesday.
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...Facebook-post-missing-wife.html#ixzz4mXbIfT8k
Thank you Jersey Girl
Since it's still in MSM. I will share my thoughts on his post.Of course, my opinions and impressions only.
#1 - He hopes for "future reconciliation with all parties concerned, for Emelia's sake."
This gives me hope that Isabella's family will be able to be apart of Emelia's life at least slightly. He may be trying to defend the "bad guy" depiction the family has made with the media. Although, imo there are more sincere ways to say this... and to mean it.
#2 - Isabella's mention compared to the rest of the contents of the post
The beginning and end, 3/4 paragraphs in total are all about Bennet, Bennet, Bennet. Disregarding the middle blurb about Isabella, the post reads very narcissistic and defensive in my opinion. I would understand and expect "a bit" defensive but it's very defensive which shouldn't be as important / or a priority.
This ratio of content seems to point to what is truly on his mind which imo is not indicative of a deeply grieving husband.
#3 - The blurb on Isabella
[FONT=Helvetica, Arial, Times new roman]The paragraph on Isabella seemed truly sincere, still defensive, but sincere with very profound and touching words, right up until the last sentence "She [Isabella] is someone that I and Emelia will never forget". [/FONT]
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[FONT=Helvetica, Arial, Times new roman]Emelia (9mo) will never remember her mother. Bennet sounded sincere until he said that. IMO a truly grieving husband would be devastated that his child will never know her mother, that would torment me if it were me. But he said Emelia will never forget her which is a delusional way to attempt to pluck at the heart strings of people reading the post IMO. [/FONT]
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[FONT=Helvetica, Arial, Times new roman]#4 - "It is now time to start the healing process.."[/FONT]
[FONT=Helvetica, Arial, Times new roman]"Healing process" are the words that are said to those who going through the process, especially the first step of the process which is grieving.. emotions of anger and sadness and not comprehending much more than that. [/FONT]
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[FONT=Helvetica, Arial, Times new roman]These words are said TO those grieving or ABOUT those grieving. We usually don't hear these words FROM the grieving IMO. We hear "privacy", "processing", "grieving", "time" etc. [/FONT]
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[FONT=Helvetica, Arial, Times new roman][FONT=arial, sans-serif]The fact that Bennet is saying this to us instead of the other way around, seems to me someone who is not truly grieving IMO. [/FONT]Typically[FONT=arial, sans-serif], from grieving people we hear there is "no healing" that it still doesn't get any better years and years later but that you just learn to survive -- not heal. With Bennet there's always this theme of "moving on" which IMO isn't the appropriate language or essence given his circumstances.
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