LinasK
Verified insider- Mark Dribin case
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Yes that's what it is/was supposed to be all right, even "back in the day." But a lot of "Mrs.'s" saw that "Ms." as "failed woman."
I remember when my grandfather died (in 1971) and my grandmother was informed that legally she would now have to refer to herself as "Mrs. Her First Name Their Last Name" as opposed to the "Mrs. His First Name Their Last Name" she'd used all their married life. It just about put her over the edge. But the final straw was when Ma Bell informed her that since he was no longer alive, the phone listing could no longer appear in the phone book under his name. I honestly feared that she would lay down and willfully die. She'd totally lost her identity. But then that was another (even-then dying) era and another way of life.
See, I just don't get that. Why would you want to be known as somebody's property as opposed to your own identity? There used to be a poster here with the hat "*advertiser censored*'s girl" (fill in the *advertiser censored*'s), which I also could've chosen as it's my DH's name too, but it never even occurred to me, until I saw her use it.