gitana1
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I think she is a wonderful person, but she seems to think about drinking a lot. She has several tweets about that, including one where she said her Mom limited her to a pint when they were drinking in England. I think her mother is very wise, and she might have seen that Hannah might have been getting too fond of drinking. I also was concerned about a tweet of Hannah's where she said that someone around her was doing cocaine.
I am not writing this to disparage her. I am pointing it out to all the parents (including myself) that we must be ever vigilant about drinking. When I next see my oldest, I plan to have a conversation about alcohol changing behavior and making us do things we wouldn't normally do. It's very important for all of us to know how to drink responsibly. We must make our kids realize that the world is not kind to vulnerable people, even if, like Hannah, they are kind to them.
I think she's like a lot of college kids. I would like to add something concrete to your suggestion as to what to talk to our kids about. We should tell them:
1. Never walk alone at night.
2. Have a buddy system when out drinking.
3. If you are meeting someone or going somewhere, text a different person to create a record of where you are going, who you are meeting, and what time you are expected back.
4. Trust your gut instinct. If something seems wrong, get out of the situation.
5. When you are walking alone, walk with a purpose, upright, confident, and not texting or looking at your phone.
6. Learn to be assertive. Learn to loudly say, "No.".
7. Ask for help from businesses or groups that may be around. Do not be embarrassed to ask for help.
I was able to find a lovely vigil that was held at UVA honoring Hannah. The people involved in preparing it went to great lengths to find all of the things that were important to Hannah and it's a beautiful vigil, IMO. The music is heart wrenching.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qWg_Tff0mL0
They speak of her awesome Instagram account and her love of avocados, her cooking lavish meals, the incredible decorations on her wall creating a rainbow, she's "the kindest and goofiest of people", the flapper-dress inspired ski race…
A favorite quote of hers..."Happiness is in the heart not in the circumstances" - Dove candy wrapper
They speak of her community service, big giraffe hugs, quick wit, and her humorous and spunky spirit.
She sounds like a real joy to be around. Come on home, Hannah!
Incredible. Tear jerking. Thank you.