I realize that my post might have come off accusatory - but I agree, it's not my business how they choose to spend their money.
It's just a clue, is my point. I don't know what her situation is, but if her kids are in full time day care and she's a full time stay at home mom, that's a clue pointing in the direction that she was not all that happy at home and might have chosen to leave. As it is now, the picture of her is that she was completely happy and bubbly and there's no way she would leave - but I'm exploring the possibility that she might have.
Like in the case of Leanne Bearden in Garden Ridge, Texas. There was an investigation focused on locating an abducted women, when in reality she had been terribly unhappy with her life and had committed suicide, despite virtually everyone saying she was very happy. Except her sister in law who said she wasn't adjusting.
So it's in that spirit that I'm wondering why a completely devoted happy stay at home mom would have her kids in full time daycare - if in fact, that's the case.