leyash
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I'm going to guess you were in a sexual relationship with a peer, not an adult? Consent laws are to protect the vulnerable from being taken advantage by those of age. Most states have laws that allow for the person to be 2-3 years older than the minor, because they are essentially a peer. Coercion, assault, and enjoyment are murky waters to wade it. It's why sexual abuse is so traumatic. It's possiblt to enjoy what is being done, and also be assaulted. I can't tell you how many child and minor abuse victims I forensically interviewed, that liked how something felt. Feelings don't matter. Laws are laws. It can still do tons of damage down the line, because minors are less likely to understand consent. They are more likely to understand further on, that what they participated in was not OK and not something they really wanted to do.
He was 21. Almost 22.
I am not trying to say, "Oh, let's just get over it." Not by any stretch of the imagination, so please don't take it that way.
I just think it's kind of a double standard that people will say "He couldn't consent" to sex, when he was 17... but a kid, at 15, who murders someone, should be tried as an adult because he "knew what he was doing." KWIM?