Mrs Aler has not heard from her son-in-law since Novy's disappearance and has not been able to see her grandchildren, even after Mr Chardon took them to Indonesia just after his wife went missing.
"I tried to call them at the hotel they were staying at, but reception said it was not possible to speak with them.
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I just read this whole thread and have had a thought... Please be gentle.:blushing:
Ok, probably a dumb question but are checked baggage on international flights x-rayed? I can't get this terrible thought out of my head that possibly she could be in a checked bag that was never claimed in some unclaimed baggage warehouse.
Please someone tell me that could not happen! :truce:
Just. Wow. This overbearing, unpleasant, self-centered man's first wife apparently overdoses (and I am just betting there's much more to it than that..). The second wife goes missing, presumed murdered the DAY she signs the divorce papers.
It just gets more damning, in my mind, as information comes to light. And I cannot believe the cops do not consider him a suspect. Makes me wonder how many cops he has in his pocket. Or if they're like, hiring especially stupid folks up north these days. Or (and I pray this is the case) they are waiting for him to slip up...
I would love to know who he saw in Indonesia, and why he did not take the children to see their grandmother.. Pig is just not strong enough a term for this bloke.
I am SO glad Novy's mother had a chance to speak to the media. Omg, that poor woman, losing her beautiful daughter after all the worry she must have had prior, and now can't see her grandchildren.
Mr. Chardon just made it to the top 10 of my "people I'd like to see eaten by sharks" list.
It's such a hard topic to discuss (those sort of marriages) because, I think, it's difficult not to come off sounding prejudiced or stuck in stereotype thinking..
But it's just a fact that a large number of younger Asian women marry older Australian men - and as I said earlier, some of those marriages are for love. But many are also 'mutually benefical' - which is quite okay too, as long as everybody's relatively happy and harming nobody.
Problem is, not everyone's nice about it. People are taken advantage of on both sides.. As far as some of the men go, I must say yes -- I have perceived in a few cases a definite sense that the man thinks he 'owns' the woman. And in many ways, it's easy for a man with the money and power in a relationship to actually have that sort of hold on their partner (Asian or otherwise). And when the woman gets sick of being treated like a doormat and leaves, it's always -her- fault, and she's the one who's seen as doing the wrong thing...
This country is slowly changing and you'd think men like Chardon were a dying breed these days.. but there are plenty of them still out there using money to trap women into horrible relationships, and believing that the money means the woman owes them undying obedience.
Novy appears to be a good example of that.. And until opportunities for financial independence for South East Asian women improve in their own countries, I don't think things will change.
I do agree that there is a lot of happening and it is a way for these woman to get out of a life of poverty.......and of course for these old guys to get what they want.
But I have seen it work both ways beneficially. Here where I am you see it all the time....the old guy and the young "mail bride"......sorry to be blunt but that is what they are called by the Australian public, especially North in the farms around Cairns. We have a market here on sunday and they have a communal get together..........all the old guys sit together and all the women have their weekly get together, I know for a fact that some of the women are even related and it was a case of when one came out here to marry, she organized husbands for her two sisters.........so while I do feel sorry for some of these woman, alot of them also have very good lifestyles.
One of my best friends fathers left his family of wife and five children to marry a phillipino mail bride, as they were called back in the 80's when it was still quite an uncommon thing to do. He had a business, his new wife had a baby and talked him into leaving everything to her and his family.....he died of cancer a couple of years later and his old family were left being bought up in housing commission. My friend is very bitter about the whole episode. So really every story is different.
Saying that I do believe this guy is guilty......and I think it was about money and what she could get as a divorce settlement.