Found Deceased Canada - Dr Elana Fric, 40, Toronto, 30 Nov 2016 *Arrest*

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Domestic violence is a cycle of abuse that is initially difficult for victims of all socio-economic, cultural, and educational backgrounds to recognize. The victim will think that the abuser is having a bad day, that the next day will be better. The victim thinks she can help heal the abuser. Victims who try to leave an abusive relationship are met with a million 'sorries' and promises of change - the honeymoon phase.

The best thing a victim can do for herself is to recognize the duration of the cycle, because it is there. The cycle may be 2 weeks of good behavior and 2 weeks of spiralling into what will become an act of abuse, followed by the honeymoon sorry phase and so on. That cycle duration is a month, but it may be longer or shorter. Recognizing the cycle is the first step in permanently leaving the relationship.

The first step in leaving the relationship is not filing for divorce, but quietly moving out of the matrimonial home when the abuser is at work or out of the house. That will be followed by the 'I'm sorries', which usually result in the victim returning to the matrimonial home. Rather than return, the victim needs immense social and community support to take a different path, to not return for another honeymoon and cycle of abuse, and stay the course.

The hardest thing for the victim to do is talk about the abuse. There is shame associated with abuse, where the victim is ashamed for making poor decisions that resulted in being in an abusive situation, fearing people will ask if she didn't see the signs ... and she did, but she didn't know what they meant. Many people do not believe the victim, do not take her statements seriously, and laugh off what she says because they have a different perception of the abuser. Abusers act behind closed doors, but are gregarious, wonderful people in public.

The best thing you can do when someone quietly reveals that her abuser is making her feel in ways that are not normal is to listen, and provide educational materials about emotional, financial, sexual, and physical abuse. Victims need time to place their experience in context, but once they recognize what they are dealing with, be available to help in every way possible: financially, socially, offering shelter, and so on.

Chances are the victim has been isolated from friends and family by the abuser, her self-esteem will be destroyed, and she will have a difficult time rebuilding a trusted network of support. Be there, be reliable, don't judge, help her rebuild a new life.
 
It seems unusual to me (compared with similar cases) that he's charged with first-degree murder, implying it wasn't a sudden attack of rage, but a cold-blooded plot. Yet how could a smart man think he'd get away with it?
 
It seems unusual to me (compared with similar cases) that he's charged with first-degree murder, implying it wasn't a sudden attack of rage, but a cold-blooded plot. Yet how could a smart man think he'd get away with it?

Do we know how she was murdered? If he injected her, or shot her, that would involve premeditation and justify first degree murder charges.
 
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Do we know how she was murdered? If he injected her, or shot her, that would involve premeditation and justify first degree murder charges.

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/to-doctors-hollywood-couple-1.3881059
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On Thursday, <victim's name redacted> body was found in a suitcase near an underpass in Vaughan, Ont. She died from strangulation and blunt-force trauma.
From a professional perspective, Shamji and <victim's name redacted> were a medical power couple.
But at a dinner with OMA colleagues in Toronto on Nov. 25, <victim's name redacted> confided that she'd filed divorce papers.

Two physicians who spoke to CBC News, Dr. Nadia Alam, a family physician and anaesthetist in Georgetown, Ont., and Dr. Darren Cargill, a palliative care physician in Windsor, Ont., both confirmed hearing <victim's name redacted> speak about her impending divorce to the man she married back in 2004.
"She said she was looking forward to a new beginning," Cargill recalled.
Police previously said the couple were having marital problems and believe <victim's name redacted> death was "a deliberate act."
 
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I've redacted the victim's name in all the above posts. If I missed anything, please let me know.

In accordance with the publication ban on the victim's name, please ensure that anything you post has the name redacted (even in any quotes you bring in from MSM).

If someone accidentally posts the full name, please Alert immediately so we can fix it.

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The publication ban is being criticized. Not sure yet if it is being formally challenged by the media, so in the meantime we'll use the intials ES or EFS instead of the full name.
 
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Dec 8 2015
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/domestic-violence-victims-1.3885381
Many researchers believe it's about power and control, she added.

When a woman finally says she's leaving the relationship, Barrett explained, abusers may try to escalate their power and control tactics to force the woman to stay.
[h=2]Not a 'normal break-up'[/h] It's something Lesley Ackrill has seen repeatedly during her three decades at Interval House, a shelter for abused women and children in Toronto.
"If there's a history of violence in the marriage or union, we in the field know that the most dangerous time of a woman's life is when she tries to leave &#8212; when she makes the break," she said.
"Prior to this, he believes she's controllable and controlled, and that he can continue to try and control her through abuse."
Numbers sourced by the Canadian Women's Foundation shed light on the dangers facing women fleeing abuse:
In certain instances, Ackrill said abusers have found her clients through GPS locators on their phones. "(She) might go to a Shoppers Drug Mart or a Loblaws, and if he's technologically savvy, he can find her."

Silvia Samsal, executive director of Women's Habitat of Etobicoke, has heard of men calling every shelter in Ontario or filing missing person's reports to track down their fleeing partner.
 
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http://www.cp24.com/news/police-searching-area-where-body-of-murdered-doctor-was-found-1.3196318
[h=1]Police searching area where body of murdered doctor was found[/h]
Last Updated Friday, December 9, 2016 9:30AM EST
A Toronto police dive team will be searching part of the Humber River in Kleinburg this morning as the investigation into the murder of Dr. EF continues.

"This was a dump location where the suitcase was left. We want to make sure that there was no other evidence left behind," Det. Steve Ryan told CP24. "We have yet to find a Coach purse, car keys and an iPhone, so those are things that may be up here in the water.
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From the quote above:

"Prior to this, he believes she's controllable and controlled, and that he can continue to try and control her through abuse."

Thinking about that statement, it seems to me that in this case, the belief that he could control her would have been a major delusion on his part - as a doctor, she could have left him at any time (no sign that it would have been prohibited by her religion). Both are young enough to know divorce is extremely common. She probably stayed out of love and to stay true to her vows, because she believed it was just stress, and of course for the sake of her children.

I think this may well be true in many cases, it's not because he controls her that she stays, but he believes that it is. Perhaps an abuser can't tolerate the idea that their partner is free to change their mind about the relationship at any time and leave.

It is a point in favour of a zero-tolerance policy towards abuse in a relationship. By forgiving, making excuses, etc, you're just encouraging an abuser to believe the abuse is what keeps you in the relationship.
 
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:( That fateful reconciliation.

"She aspired to be a physician leader &#8212; somebody important &#8212; because she was so pushed down by her husband,"
 
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http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/elana-fric-vigil-1.3895990
Datta-Ray is speaking Wednesday night at a Queen's Park vigil being held in memory of F and "all those who have experienced abuse."

F being laid to rest on Saturday

A second vigil in F's honour is being held on Thursday night in Windsor, Ont., near where she grew up in the town of Tecumseh.

Her funeral is also being held in Windsor this Saturday at St. Francis of Assisi Croatian Catholic Church.
J F, her father, told the CBC there will be two busloads of doctors coming to attend the service.
 
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I'm confused about something posted here about a ban on releasing the victim's name. Her name is used on the news, so where did it come from that there's a publication ban?

"The funeral service for Toronto doctor Elana Fric-Shamji got underway Saturday morning, December 17, 2016, in Windsor."
Saturday, December 17, 2016 11:38AM

http://windsor.ctvnews.ca/hundreds-...murder-victim-dr-elana-fric-shamji-1.3207765#
 
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I'm confused about something posted here about a ban on releasing the victim's name. Her name is used on the news, so where did it come from that there's a publication ban?

"The funeral service for Toronto doctor Elana Fric-Shamji got underway Saturday morning, December 17, 2016, in Windsor."
Saturday, December 17, 2016 11:38AM

http://windsor.ctvnews.ca/hundreds-...murder-victim-dr-elana-fric-shamji-1.3207765#
Lengthy article..
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http://news.nationalpost.com/full-comment/christie-blatchford-judge-ignored-law-in-banning-publication-of-murder-victims-name

[h=1]Christie Blatchford: Justice of the Peace ignored law in banning publication of murder victim&#8217;s name[/h]


In the scheme of things &#8212; a dead doctor, her physician husband arrested and charged with first-degree murder in her death, and at least for the time being three children essentially orphaned &#8212; this was small potatoes.
But from a systems perspective, what happened at Toronto&#8217;s Old City Hall courts Saturday, when M S made his first appearance, was nonetheless a grotesque comedy of errors, or, as one lawyer said Monday, &#8220;a total shitshow.&#8221;

A partial recording of S&#8217;s bail hearing &#8212; and by partial, I mean partial, in that it was exactly one half-page long &#8212; obtained by Postmedia&#8217;s Sam Pazzano Monday, shows that S's lawyer, Liam O&#8217;Connor, asked for a ban on publication on the proceeding and that the Crown attorney asked for a non-communication order preventing S from talking to two witnesses.

The first is a standard statutory publication ban common at bail hearings; the second is also a common feature of criminal proceedings, the idea being to keep an accused person from potentially influencing the evidence of a witness.
O&#8217;Connor didn&#8217;t oppose the Crown&#8217;s request, and Justice of the Peace Odida Quamina promptly imposed both a .517 order and a .486 (5) (1) order.
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As per Sillybilly's post..
http://www.websleuths.com/forums/sh...-30-Nov-2016-*Arrest*&p=12987218#post12987218
 
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Very confusing! However, if the CBC is publishing the name of the victim, the name of the accused, the charge, and the nature of the crime, I suspect that whatever happened in court does not result in a publication ban on the names of the victim or the accused.

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/windsor/vigil-elana-fric-physician-1.3899563
 
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http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/winds...con-of-light-at-windsor-ont-funeral-1.3901893
"We all knew her and worked with her and realized her potential as a leader in the medical community and how much she had to offer us all. We loved her."

elana-fric-doctors.jpg
Doctors took a bus down from Toronto to honour their colleague. (Lisa Xing/CBC)


Esser said the OMA is looking at what the community can do to help women dealing with domestic violence.
"This certainly brought to our attention how close to home it can be," he said.
 
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