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I never reported to L/E either.Long after the fact my family consulted an attorney but we were told since I waited so long coupled with no evidence (other than my word) that it wouldn't go anywhere and if anything Id get dragged through the mud (instead of getting him charged with "actual" rape we also thought about statuatory rape,I was 14 he was 19,but again its my word against his).It didn't help that after raping me he went and "bragged" about having sex with me so when I did reveal to a few people what happened they too had trouble beliving it was rape (My rapist was someone who had dated my sister and we all had mutual friends) and to be honest,my parents were very nonsupportive as well(I had no counseling until I initiated it on my own as an adult)and I too was doubted by even close friends as they too thought rape meant a dirty,stranger forcing you at knifepoint into a dark alley and had trouble beliving that this friendly,good looking guy who was well known because he played in a local band forced me to have sex with him in his car when he supposed to be driving me home(I wont go into details but he knew I did NOT want to have sex with him-he knew I was a virgin-and he actually apologised after the fact which just added to the trauma).I have reason to belive I was not his only victim but he has never been reported for rape.
I regret that although I was terribly young,I had been smarter and stronger and either fought OR promptly reported him but I was ashamed/embarassed and felt that I would be called a liar(which I was) but Ive worked alot of this out in therapy and am working with others who have had similar expirences (I know "date rape" is underreported but I think its even more rampant than we know..........they say 1 out of 3 but I think its more like 2 out of 3 )
Thank you for sharing your story L!!!!! You are not alone!