My entire post didn't properly post so here it is in its entirety on the issue of Family Court status around time of JF murder.
The limited testimony of Atty Meehan yesterday imo showed the great impatience and delusion of FD and MT in the matter of custody and resolution of the divorce. I think the testimony also spoke to the psychopathy of FD as well on many levels and shows that MT really isn’t much different that FD in how she thinks about things and what she believes.
Atty Meehan said both MT and FD felt “down” about the status of things. I think he should have said they were pouting because they didn’t get their way in family court as I feel this is more accurate. MT delusionally thought that she would have coffee with JF and the children and visitation would be reinstated on an unsupervised basis and that she would be allowed to be present. This isn’t how the process worked and in his ineptitude Atty Meehan I believe set the wrong tone with the couple as getting to where the couple wanted things to be would take a very long time imo. To be noted is that JF had petitioned the Court for the removal of Atty Meehan due to I believe what they believed to be his favoritism towards FD and MT. Just putting this out there as another data point that sadly the jury won’t have.
But, in general folks that feel down about things have the capacity to assess a situation and look at their behaviour and figure out what they did right and what they did wrong undertake to recalibrate and figure a way forward.
Did MT or FD do any of what I just described? Nope. They didn’t look at how they got into supervised visitation to begin with and why Defendant and her daughter were barred from the children as well. Did FD complete the court ordered therapy to the standard required by Judge Heller? Nope he did not. Did defendant enter therapy either to perhaps understand why her choice to use her daughter to communicate with the dulos children against court rules and also pressuring her daughter and Dulos children lie to their mother is psychologically damaging and a poor choice as a parent and a human being? Nope, she did not as she is “healthy” and did nothing wrong and needed no work or changes in her life as to how she behaves and the choices she makes. Nope. The defendant like FD she Is a victim and she blames JF for all that is wrong in her world.
Neither Defendant nor FD had the capacity or willingness to do anything to help their cause imo and instead sat and pouted and claimed everyone in the system was against them. It’s easy to claim victimhood while doing nothing to change and this is precisely what defendant and FD did but they took the added step of planing and executing the murder of JF. Yep, they saw murder as the easier and more productive solution to not getting their way in Family Court. Think about that and think again. Both Defendant and FD thought reflection and recalibration weren’t the answer but MURDER was??????
They saw no reason to change themselves or their view of the situation and so lashed out in anger and rage at JF and GF, they blamed lack of money and a broken system. But at the end of it all they took zero responsibility for their roles in all that had happened which is just par for the course when dealing with narcs imo. Nothing was ever wrong with FD or defendant and everything was all wrong with everyone else. It was delusion at a level that should have been seen an acted upon by Atty Meehan imo but because he is so limited and inept as a practitioner that he didn’t realize the grave danger posed to JF and the children he was charged with taking care of by both FD and defendant. Judge Heller wrote about as strong an Order on the topic of FD lying while under oath and lying about his finances to the Court.
The Family court file is huge. But I looked again at it last night to refresh myself on where the case was shortly before the murder of JF as the State isn’t getting in to some of the other details that I believe to be impt. Maybe they will get there but I just wanted to put this out here in the event that they don’t get there.
5/1/19 JF files motion to remove GAL Meehan (479 in Court File)
5/7/19 FD files financial affidavit (486 in Court File)
5/8/19 JF files for Contempt and Sanctions against FD for filing improper and misleading financial affidavit (489 Court File)
5/9/19 FD files objection to JF claims about the financial information submitted
5/10/19 JF files motion regarding FD Alleged Emergency Custody Motion (493 Court File)
There are the ongoing Custody issues going on during this time too but Judge Heller clearly was pushing to resolve the financial issues as FD had never paid child support, hadn't followed through on his obligation to provide medical insurance to the children and JF and had essentially been a 'dead beat dad' for the duration of the proceedings. FD submitted a financial report to the Court that JF knew to be false and Judge Heller it seems hit a wall with the ongoing lying of FD to the Court and ordered financial documents to be prepared by FD that were acceptable to the Court.
So, just to add to what I had written above about taking responsibility and figuring out a way forward to resolve the divorce and custody situation, what we see during the period preceding the JF murder was FD continuing to play games with the Court on the issue of his finances and submitted false statements to the Court. Is this someone who is making an effort to resolve the situation and move forward or who has any care about a live in girlfriend possibly leaving because the Family Court case is dragging on now for 2 years?
I would argue that FD really didn't care about MT and her issues with the Divorce/Custody and no doubt lied about what he was actually doing in Court. Did MT ever bother to look at the Court record as its public? If so, she would have seen that immediately preceeding the murder FD was lying to the Court about his finances and that he had no intention of providing any support to his children or even medical insurance.
FD had been lying about his finances for a long time both to JF and no doubt to MT but Judge Heller had had enough and was ordering strong measures to resolve this issue.
FD I believe knew that his chances for changing anything in Family Court on custody/divorce were nil to none but what he then did on the financial disclosure only served to drag things out further as it made moving the case forward impossible.
I do believe that it was the financial disclosure issue in Family Court that pushed FD to the point of personal no return as he knew his financial situation was in shambles and that he had been lying for so long that there was no way to recover in Court and that Judge Heller was going hard to nail the financial issues down and FD knew he couldn't escape it. FD also knew (even if he didn't say to Atty Meehan and lied about it to MT and her family) that there was no way supervised visitation would be changed anytime soon.
The rest of story is history and the murder happened and FD immediately filed for custody but GF ultimately prevailed.
My reason for putting out these details on the financial disclosure yet again (its been rehashed here many many times) was simply to say that the discredited and disallowed Herman report was a SIDE ISSUE imo in the divorce/custody. It is a false and irrelevant issue brought forward by Defence Counsel to take away from the reality of what was happening in Family Court with FD and JF. The Herman report was kicked from Family Court by Judge Heller so a new study would have had to been done with different professionals and this would take a good long time (idk 6 months etc.). But, at the same time FD would have had to provide accurate financial records which he never would have done either. FD was being boxed in by Judge Heller and JF in Family Court and he knew he didn't have the ability to be truthful and he didn't have the money to pay a lawyer to push his case either (side show issue was a filing to dismiss FD then attorney Mike Rose for his role in facilitating the FD false financial disclosures to the Court).
I don't think we should fall for the ongoing game of '3 card monte' on the Herman Report by Defence Counsel as it effectively takes the eyes off of what was really going on. FD and MT were not winning in Family Court and not only were they not winning, Judge Heller had had enough and was going hard to bring accountability to FD on financial matters so the financial arragements could be resolved, the Herman report was removed from the case and a new report would have to be completed which would take months and also be paid for.
FD imo saw no way out and no way to escape in Family Court as Judge Heller wasn't allowing it and so he conspired with MT and KM to murder JF to get the money attached to the 5 Dulos children.
MOO
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