City girl- my ex was eerily similar to FD. Charming, bright, handsome, successful and from what I have learned and read about JD she was an empath. Very sympathetic, sees the best in others and is very kind, loving and genuine. These monsters look for women like this to prey on. At first, for years, they put you on a pedestal. Its called “love bombing”. You don’t know it at the time but their behavior at the beginning is what makes you put up with so much in the middle and end. If they had reached across the table and popped you in the face in the beginning you would leave and say that guy is bad news. But they do the opposite and they do it well for years. You see these narcopaths hate the person they are dependent upon to keep them going. They are like vampires that suck the life out of you. I was a triathlete, had a wonderful career, independent. I became sick, depressed - it was awful because they slowly slowly make you feel like a disaster. When I would want to run I would have to hide it from him. To take a jog I could not tell him. He would say honey did you work out today? I would not lie I would say I did. He would say look in the mirror. You look awful just exhausted go lie down and I’ll make you a cup of tea and a sandwich. It was insidious. It is learned helplessness. You have to give up yourself to be with them. It was twenty years for me and even though we are still In court and he has a girlfriend ironically named mishel he is doing the same things I am his enemy now that I left. You become that to them when you do that. It is like you have embarrassed them and their true nature comes out.