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He refers to that in one of his facebook posts. He says he had CPS interview his kid to make sure they weren't forcing her to hunt for her own food with a spork, cut the grass with nail scissors or lock her in the basement.
I feel sorry for this guy. People are really going after him, psychologists, talking heads bloggers.
If my kid said I'd be on my own when I was old and needed someone to wipe my *advertiser censored**, or referred to a family friend as the "cleaning lady", etc., I would be very upset.
I understand his feeling. But I don't like parents destroying their kids things as punishment. Kind of childish thing to do, IMO. I think he should have sold it or given it charity.
His use of a gun doesn't bother me. Who cares how he did it?
As for him publicizing this, he posted it on her facebook wall. It was meant to be seen by everyone who saw the girl's rant against her parents. He was embarrassed, according to him and wanted her friends and their parents to know they don't raise her that way. Of course he didn't mean for this to go viral.
He refuses to do media interviews, even though many have offered he and his dad money. He says you don't get paid for crummy behavior and he knows they can twist whatever he says to their liking.
I will say that it appears the daughter has a step-mom and a small brother, maybe from her step-mom and dad? That can make a kid feel second best, even when their not. I hope dad explores that a bit.
But, the kid is apparently the first of any grandchildren and gets a ton of stuff, money and attention as a result and he's trying to make sure she learns the value of a dollar and hard work and what parents provide. Sounds like a decent man to me and a good dad. Maybe not his best moment but not abuse, IMO.
I think the girl's mom responded. I heard that on the radio. She apparently stated that the chores the girl is supposed to do each day mostly revolve around herself, like making her bed, doing her laundry, cleaning up after herself. She said the daughter was exaggerating. I am trying to see if her response can be found online.
My bolded part is my take on the whole thing. I think she was over the line in her comments but it is not atypical of what kids that age do sometimes. I do believe he could have handled this differently, though. Shooting up the computer--and videotaping the act--seems off for an adult. I do not think it has or will cause the daughter harm, and may teach her something in the long run. But he could have accomplished that by getting rid of the computer another way....a donation perhaps, with the daughter having to accompany him to do the deed.
I did that with my daughter years ago when she first got her driver's license but was not using it responsibly. When her failure to heed my warnings, advice, and rules resulted in an extremely unacceptable situation, I drove her to the DMV and had her voluntarily relinquish her license. It took a very long time for her to understand my action in that situation but she did eventually come to realize I was trying to save a life, possibly hers! I do not know for sure if that lesson would have been as easily learned had she seen me shoot up her driver's license with a gun, however.