Eire, I totally agree with everything you've said here. I'm a teacher, and the number of kids with disabilities whose parents think it's an excuse for bad behaviour is amazing. I hear so often 'he only kicks/hits/bites/spits/steals because he has a disability and he's frustrated.' In most cases, it's because they know they can get away with it. And then the parents accuse the school of being insensitive to their childs needs when we try to put consequences in place for the behaviour...
GA - A Group of Georgia Third Graders Plot To Attack Teacher
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Eire, I totally agree with everything you've said here. I'm a teacher, and the number of kids with disabilities whose parents think it's an excuse for bad behaviour is amazing. I hear so often 'he only kicks/hits/bites/spits/steals because he has a disability and he's frustrated.' In most cases, it's because they know they can get away with it. And then the parents accuse the school of being insensitive to their childs needs when we try to put consequences in place for the behaviour...
my son has ADHD. he is quicker to act on impulse than my daughter that does not have this problem. i have found with him i must always be consistent. if he is allowed to act out a little it tends to wind him up. this teacher may have been strict for the same reason. i can understand a child's frustration with some teachers. my son was written up by a teacher while we adjusted his medication for "squirming" in his seat. when i asked her exactly what that meant she explained he shifted around a lot and she found that distracting. frustration would not lead to a plot of such violence unless there is a problem with these children other than learning disabilities. some may only be following the leaders but i would think the leaders must have a violent home to be so ready to hurt someone that angered them
Trino
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It appears they have been charged. This plot was certainly sophisticated for 3rd graders.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23903655/
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23903655/
Texana
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Many but not all children with learning disabilities end up with emotional disabilities as well. (ED= Emotionally Disturbed.)
I haven't enough expertise to know whether these start as chemical inbalances or processing difficulties and then given the right parenting (or lack of it) environment, grow into severely emotionally disturbed children, but something is certainly "broken" with them.
The only common factor I have seen so far is denial (for the ED children) in that their parents deny the child acts that way, deny it is that severe, deny the child has any responsibility. Put that together with a child who has learning issues and you have a recipe for a tragedy.
It is rarer with children that young but I've had a few only a little older than that whom I wouldn't turn my back on in the dark when they were angry.
I haven't enough expertise to know whether these start as chemical inbalances or processing difficulties and then given the right parenting (or lack of it) environment, grow into severely emotionally disturbed children, but something is certainly "broken" with them.
The only common factor I have seen so far is denial (for the ED children) in that their parents deny the child acts that way, deny it is that severe, deny the child has any responsibility. Put that together with a child who has learning issues and you have a recipe for a tragedy.
It is rarer with children that young but I've had a few only a little older than that whom I wouldn't turn my back on in the dark when they were angry.
southcitymom
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This link didn't bring up a story on this case. I couldn't find an update on www.ajc.com to find out what the charges are.
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I general I agree with you, Eire, and no offense taken. The disabilities are NOT an excuse, but they can be an explanation. My youngest daughter is bipolar/ADHD and behavior problems, especially at school, have been a huge issue. The problems are rooted in the illness, but she doesn't get a "pass" when she acts out. There are always consequences, but when deciding on consequences we do take into account whether it's the illness coming out or if she's just being a brat that day. If it's the illness there's no TV or computer for the rest of the day, but she's able to read, join the family for meals, play with her pets, etc. We tell her is she's too sick to stay in control then she obviously needs some recuperation time to get better just like when she has strep or a cold. If she's just being a brat, then it's grounded to her room and more priviledges taken away and perhaps a longer punishment. Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference--you have to stay really tuned in to the kid.
I admire you for taking this on with a fiance's stepdaughter, especially with a family that's excusing the behavior. I don't know what LD you're dealing with, but any of them can be a challenge!