al66pine said:
In context of 5-6 yr relationship, w "break"/breakup a few months ago, I can understand relative saying WTTE: We all thought they were getting married. Meaning, we thought so for swveral yrs, UNTIL this break/breakup.
She may have even cont'ed thinking that AFTER break/breakup, as the couple had broken up & reconciled before, iirc.
Some fam members get v enthusiastic about the younger gen. getting married.
Not just his aunt. Goncalves’ mom, in an interview on
“Lawrence Jones Cross Country“
“Kaylee and Jack would have eventually been married. They would have eventually been married, and they would have eventually had children.”
Did anyone else find it odd that JD’s aunt and KG’s mom to be so open about what they expected and had prepared for the future of these young people.
It appears these two had been dating each other long enough, consistently Or off and on, to not have had much dating experience with anyone else.
While that fact may seem comforting to the aunt and mom, upon entering college the two young people may have realized how odd that was. In this day and age high school sweethearts who maintain relationships through college is not common.
Yes the college years are about education, but they are also a phase of identify development. The 3-5 years in college are a becoming process, where young adults spread their wings and jump from the parental and small town nest into the larger world.
Some jump 1000s of miles away from home, others a few 100 miles.
Being so close to home and attending college with a high school sweetheart may have felt safe, but could have hindered this becoming process.
KG taking a job in TX and planning to move there in Feb may have been her assertion of distance as a form of independence and self discovery.
I found it odd for JD’s aunt and KG’s mom’s comments what appears to be taking KG’s choice of independency away, essentially stifling her And the status quo rather than celebrating the distance and independence Texas would offer.
Why? To protect her honor, to assure themselves of the known safety and security JD represented to them? Young women in some older women’s minds are still mostly wives and mothers no matter what degree they hold or job title they earn. This is especially true if the mom followed her dreams to marry her high school sweetheart having earned a college degree she did not use. Some Moms encourage their daughters to reach farther than they themselves chose to reach, others prefer a known.
What did JD think of K’s move? I would hope he would be encouraging, knowing that holding her back is not healthy nor Is it love for her.
What we don’t know are JD’s plans. When would he graduate? Mechanical engineering is not a partying degree any more than premed or preLaw. I cannot imagine how he could balance his own goals with the life and aspirations of his party popular girlfriend.
It seems clear to me that their live paths were different, they may have been growing apart, and a future with them together was uncertain.
All this in an effort to understand the significance of K’s move to Texas among the many other changes taking place in her life. I see none of them as suspect In any way.
JMO