Yeah wouldn’t be surprised at all if everything you say is true! And if he did this, everything decent about his outward persona was a lie
But as far as hardworking family man …. unless I have the facts wrong, he was an assistant mgr & a pharm tech (both earned positions) at a busy central retail location where his coworkers & customers have only said good things about him & described him as very helpful; and he’s been married to the same woman for 30 years, raised a daughter together, with no evidence (so far) of outside relationships or domestic violence AFAIK
This is the external picture that’s hard to square with what he went on to do IMO tho I do assume more facts will come out eventually to give lie to it!
JMO