Learn something new everyday right?? Sometimes more than you'd ever want to know even lol! We have had some generous posters provide some education in this arena over the past few weeks including important preparations for the act and consequences to the sphincter. But as a "modern"-ish woman myself, (I am in my early 20s), I do attest that many females I know request and enjoy anal sex. I also am aware of women who have genuine fantasies of being a submissive 'used' in sex acts, and I also have heard of men who have fantasies of submitting to degrading sex acts with a woman leading. I don't think the vulgarity of TA and JA sex fantasies should have any basis on judging him (or her). We can't hear TAs side of who initiated what but we do know JA consented to it, said it was hot and never voiced any apprehension. I think when some people try to make the assumption because there may have been these taboo sexual fantasies and acts between the two that automatically TA was the one requiring it and that it has ANY bearing on the abuse claims or the self defense claims.
My conclusion is: women can be just as freaky and sexually deviant as men, and it isn't using or abusing a consenting partaker in a sub/dom role play.
JMO, as always!
