screecher
"Dina is going to kill me!"
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i'd just like to say i'm thankful rebecca was as close by and as vigilant as she was. Because of the quick actions of both rebecca and her sister, max had ems care and transport literally within minutes. If she had been in the garage, or elsewhere on the property outside, or sleeping with earplugs in, or otherwise unavailable, max could have laid there much longer.
She may not have been perfect-- none of us are, but from every single indication, and every single comment about her care of max (other than from dina and a few internet posters), she and max were as close as any longterm gf and her partner's son could be.
There is no indication that she was in any way negligent in her care of max that morning, or any other time.
What i see is a concerted attempt by some to make rebecca into either a careless, irresponsible or negligent caregiver who didn't supervise max as he engaged in risky play, or a raging murderer who snapped and assaulted max and pushed him to his death.that is character assassination, no mater how you process it. Rebecca cared for this little boy-- she went out of her way to make sure he had healthy meals, etc.
I just cannot understand the deep seated hatred for rebecca from anyone except dina, and perhaps her loyal twin sister.
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for all intents and purposes, rebecca was a stepmother to max. A common-law stepmother. Not a nanny, not a babysitter.
Max apparently didn't view her as a babysitter, either.
And, btw, what a fantastic "problem" to have that the child's soon-to-be stepmother is so interested in the child and connected to his daily activities that she wants to attend his school events? I've read that she regularly picked him up from school, and took him to soccer practice. She didn't have to do any of that. Jonah could have hired help to do that. So i think it speaks very strongly of her interest and committment to max.
And to tie all this back to the ems record, she was there, rapidly, and doing whatever she was emotionally and physically able to do. The police report describes her very upset and crying at his side. She cared about, and probably loved this young boy. She was not indifferent to his devastating condition. <modsnip>.
i also want to put in a plug for the ems paramedics. They faced a cluster of really challenging issues with this run, and they functioned rapidly, and problem solved efficiently. They faced a more serious situation than the dispatch had lead them to expect, they faced and solved several life saving problems with equipment (intra osseous placement; frustrations with airway management), and still gave max the absolute best chance for survival, with their rapid assessment and adherence to acls protocols. Max was essentially dead at the scene-- these individuals fought to regain a pulse and vital signs when that hope was very, very dim. They spent only 14 min at the scene, and continued to resuscitate him enroute to the nearest hospital.
I'm proud of their efforts. I'm also proud of xz's efforts with the 911 call snippet we heard. What a horrific situation for a 13 yo. I wish dina and jonah had been emotionally able to make a public statement together to thank ems for their efforts. And to thank rebecca and her sister for their rapid notification of ems. And to thank rady docs, nurses, and ancillary personnel for their efforts.
Falls account for more than 1/3 of all fatal accidents in the home. Except for rebecca's very suspicious death just 24 hours later, and the wealth and notoriety of jonah shacknai, i think that max's death would have just been a very sad statistic. I firmly believe max's fall was accidental. But i also firmly believe rebecca's death was not a suicide. There is an unquestionable aspect of revenge/ retribution there that defies any concept of suicide, imo.
i agree, zinn. "babysitter" also implies a temporary situation, or officially "delegated" work. I sincerely doubt that every time jonah left the house he asked rebecca if she was available to "babysit" max. They were sharing household duties and acting in every way as a committed couple and family.
<modsnip>. She provided the care of a loving stepmother, just without the piece of paper to say they were married.
Heck-- even the ems report says the call was activated by family members. Presumably, rebecca didn't identify herself to paramedics as "the babysitter." paramedics didn't even view rebecca as a babysitter-- despite the obvious racial difference, they still considered her family.
bravo k_z.