ITA!!!!
She traveled, to the beach with MM, with her family and was going AGAIN in August without Brad and with both male and "couples" friends and she was out in the evenings late with those friends, drinking and partying. She had her own vehicle, she had her kids in partial day-care, she was going to the gym, out running/training frequently, going to Java Jive enough that a smoothie was named after Bella. Until Dec 07 Brad was working and doing an MBA, and competing in a couple of Triathalons - gone from home a lot (according to Nancy and her friends) and Nancy was eating dinner at other people's houses and having Garage Sales and doing social activities with her group of friends while he was gone. Nancy told her friends she was sleeping in her daughter's room and NOT doing Brad's laundry or cleaning his bathroom. Nancy had her own cell phone and computer access. When and how exactly was Nancy "controlled" other than Brad trying to reduce her spending starting in Jan 2008? He still wasn't controlling Nancy, just how much money she spent and on what - not her activities or her travel or her socializing. Nancy was NOT a controlled wife - not in the least. That they argued over money and Brad (probably with her agreement, at least initially) cut off the credit cards and ATM card and checking account and they went to cash only on a weekly allowance for Nancy and her household expenses, does NOT a controlled wife make. Doesn't sound like a single ACTIVITY that Nancy or the kids did was cut back (day care, dance lessons, gym membership,vacations), just the spending outlay on household and misc expenses and perhaps Nancy's personal shopping.
This is NOT even remotely a controlled wife situation - Nancy had a HUGE amount of freedom and even complained that Brad didn't call her ENOUGH. The friends say she was controlled and then say she was ignored by Brad and he was never there or engaged with her and the kids...It can't be both - she can't have been controlled and at the same time have been left alone too much and ignored while openly sleeping in another room and bragging about not doing anything for Brad. That is NOT a controlled wife.
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