samsmom
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Do you have any updates on your daughter? Which Facebook is active?
Good thoughts607, I hope you will check in here from time to time. Do you know if Cal Advocates has had people out to the homeless shelters/facilities, in particular the ones that offer showers (usually one day for men and another day for women)? I would expect after some time a shower would be welcome and getting one without the means to get a room somewhere would leave those kinds of shelters as a prime option.
When you have spoken with Cortland PD do you know if they have talked to the state agencies for employment or welfare in CA or the Social Security Administration to see if either Mary or Jon turns up via an attempt to get employed or obtain benefits?
I know for a small business a Social Security withholding hit might not show up until after the quarterly filings are due. But unless they can work under the table an employment hit might lead to a location. The Social Security Number / Validation check that is done goes into the federal system so if either gets employment anywhere in the US that isn't under the table they might get another lead on them.
For benefits, a hit should turn up by now but only if the Cortland PD inquires and I don't know if that would have to be to California or to Washington DC. But there might be a way to get a lead on them that way if they do apply somewhere for benefits.
Wow. Here I thought they might still be working to find her. I am sorry that you can't even have that piece of mind that LE is putting effort into finding her. I have a hard time believing they wouldn't consider her endangered considering who she is with and that she is off medication. They don't think leaving 4 kids behind is more than a little concerning?There is a lot of things the police could have done, but they didn't. They were waiting for the car to turn up. They never pulled Jon's cell phone records. I was told they couldn't because he hadn't been reported missing. He wasn't reported missing until the day the car was found in Big Bear on 9/12. A friend claims that Jon's brother has been in contact with him from the start. I believed that from the start because if he was missing, they would have filed a report. That is what you do when someone is missing. The only time you wouldn't is if you knew where they were right? The police never treated this with a sense of urgency. Basically, she is an adult and can leave if she wants to was their argument. Which is true. I'm not sure how they know if she wanted to, or what her mental state is since no one has made contact with her. When they saw the video footage from 8/30 they basically wrapped up their "investigation." The police told me she would turn up when she had to steal food? I can't even...
M. made a choice to run off with JT. Even if JT knew she was married, it's really M. who made this choice. With that mindset, it might be really helpful to make friendlies with JTs family and friends, so that you can mutually work together to make sure both JT and MH are somewhere safe. It's in M.'s best interest that everyone is working together and lines of communication are fully open. Just a suggestion...
Wow. Here I thought they might still be working to find her. I am sorry that you can't even have that piece of mind that LE is putting effort into finding her. I have a hard time believing they wouldn't consider her endangered considering who she is with and that she is off medication. They don't think leaving 4 kids behind is more than a little concerning?
Do you happen to know, or know someone that knows, your State representative or senator in your district or someone else with some juice that could motivate PD?
Meanwhile I will keep hunting, hoping for a lead of any kind.
I believe this is what they refer to as a cluster. Ugh. I'm so sorry you're having to live this nightmare!The messages were not shared with me that she was suicidal until 9/25. The same day the information was shared that she had stopped taking her meds. I can't explain the delay in her friends not sharing the information sooner. I assume they thought she would just show back up. I think in the beginning we were all thinking that way. When I told the police they said it didn't matter. In part because the family of JT called them early on and told them they had ran away together. How did they know this? Great question since they also claimed (but didn't file) that he was missing. But they KNEW. He didn't tell them that according to them. This story that they told the police was based on JT's BFF's story that they told him they were moving to CA. The problem is that same friend told a bunch of stories. As soon as Cortland PD got that version though, that is what they believed. Then they believed that the hit on the license plate on 8/25 in Chautauqua County was them leaving the state. The problem with that story was the BFF (the same one who was telling people they were going camping, or to a concert or to CA) of JT said they were at his house after that. Two other friends of JT said that he was in Elmira after that weekend. Once the car was found in Big Bear, clearly they had to have left earlier than any of the family & friends were saying. The lies were already adding up though even before the date became an issue.
We are in contact with our representatives.