U2forever
vision over visibility
If he was stressed and taking time off work to sleep, possibly indicating depression or worry, he might not have given his car as much attention as usual.
I've seen this in my spouse....
He's also a meticulous car owner/ upgrading things, etc.
Likewise, whether or not a non- smoker allows someone to sit in their car and finish a cigarette or maybe smoke with their head hanging out the window or with the sunroof open ( I've done both) depends a lot on the relationship of the non- smoker to the smoker.
I had a husband who smoked. I truly loved him and tolerated the smoking just to be with him. My health suffered and I smelled like second hand smoke.
It did not have a good ending and now he's dying from cancer, God help and bless him, truly.
A friend or relative or business acquaintance, even someone I was dating, NO. First, I'd stop dating the smoker. Secondly, the others in the categories listed would be asked to not light up, period. If they did, I'd pretty much blow them out of the car with the windows and roof down and likely, their cigarette would not stay lit. LOL.
I'd put up with the cigarette smoke from: A LE officer who was rendering assistance if I needed it, a boss or someone similar who could adversely affect my career or life in general if asking them not to smoke is something I think would make them angry.
So, for me, it would be a matter of needing to be on the happy side of the person more than to stop them from smoking.
I think in most things which are not criminal, there are mitigating circumstances. IMO.
BBM
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SeekingJana, sorry about your ex.