pittsburghgirl
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We know Crystal has addiction issues because a number of people close to her have revealed that information. From what I have seen in the media, Ron has passed drug tests and claims to be clean. Without more data, we can't know about his situation. It is the nature of addicts/substance abusers to hide the abuse, so often people lie about, minimize, and/or deny their problem. I'm not giving Ron a "break"; I just don't have evidence, one way or the other. Certainly, the driving record and drug possession arrests point to his having some kind of problem in the past. That might well have been related more to age and peer-group practices than to physical or psychological addiction.
Whisperer, I don't see any way that Ron can be at fault if Crystal, when she had physical custody, failed to get the kids to the doctor. The whole point of custody is making sure that children's need for food, shelter, clothing, education, and medical care are met. It's a responsibility that can't be dismissed by "I don't have a car." Crystal, like every other human in the world, can ask a friend or relative for a ride to the doctor. She could call Ron and ask him or TN or her own family members or the next-door neighbor. If SHE fails to get the kids to the doctor, or misses her court hearing, it's HER fault, no one else's. The only way an addict gets better is if everyone around him or her stops making excuses for what they do and what they fail to do. It doesn't help Crystal for people to minimize her failures--just as it doesn't help Ron to minimize his temper and lack of judgment in picking females to bring around his kids.
When Crystal did not take the children to the dr (she did not drive), who was she living with? I wonder if it was GMA. So the father of the parent just let 12 dr. appts get missed and never made arrangements for them to go? What kind of father would do this? He had a mother and GMA that didn't work, they could have helped, especially if he was living with them. I cannot believe that he was the responsible parent and she wasn't. For all we know, she could have had post-partum depression.
Whisperer, I don't see any way that Ron can be at fault if Crystal, when she had physical custody, failed to get the kids to the doctor. The whole point of custody is making sure that children's need for food, shelter, clothing, education, and medical care are met. It's a responsibility that can't be dismissed by "I don't have a car." Crystal, like every other human in the world, can ask a friend or relative for a ride to the doctor. She could call Ron and ask him or TN or her own family members or the next-door neighbor. If SHE fails to get the kids to the doctor, or misses her court hearing, it's HER fault, no one else's. The only way an addict gets better is if everyone around him or her stops making excuses for what they do and what they fail to do. It doesn't help Crystal for people to minimize her failures--just as it doesn't help Ron to minimize his temper and lack of judgment in picking females to bring around his kids.