I disagree that there should be any embarrassment for any ‘sleuthing.” First of all, that’s what this Board is about and it’s very well moderated to keep us in bounds. Secondly, we all have had times when there has been a bitter surprise at the end of these cases. We need to keep an open mind in all directions IMO. Sobbing parents, pleading husbands…I’ve learned that sometimes my empathy has been abused.
The professionals look at everyone. So should we.
Furthermore, we all bring a piece of our personal history to this Board as we look at these cases. That history can certainly lead us to be unfair, because we can’t presume what we don’t know about strangers. I know nothing at all about the AM family…except some recent very negative reporting, which could be an aberration. So I offer the following, not as fact, but just as a caution.
I had an Uncle…a wonderful man we loved dearly…but he too turned into “Timmy” when he drank. Within the family, but not outside, it was known that Timmy took his frustration out on his wife…mostly verbally, but sometimes physically. Never the kids. Around town, he was highly thought of and the family was too.
I witnessed some of the times Uncle Timmy slapped my Aunt around. As he sobered up, the anger was replaced with a childlike remorse, crying, etc….like an awful awareness would come over him…that was missing before. I still think it was sincere.
But that remorse, and those tears, though sincere, gave us no information as to what had gone before. So I remember that…and, I’m cautious in assuming that the 911 call tells me anything more…than what existed in that moment.
‘I’m surprised that anyone feels that there is enough information to rule anyone out, much less be ashamed.
I repeat…I am truly ignorant of any knowledge about the M family. And, I repeat, it’s unfair to presume we know anything much about them with the limited facts we have. Or to impose our past on interpretations of what we do learn.
But I don’t think we can interpret what we hear in that 911 call…one way or the other either. Not plus…certainly not minus.
In my opinion, that 911 call gives me no critical information except that AM found his deceased wife and child.