BritsKate
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I agree - my mom was my best friend but she never knew the extent. I hid it from her deliberately. She knew my ex had a temper, but she never knew about the guns pulled on me or that he threatened to hit me almost daily. There was an immense shame that I'd gotten myself into such a mess. Others opinions of me never mattered nearly as much as what my mother thought of me.Not been nit picky her but daughters don't tell there mothers everything so it may be that she was but didn't say anything to her mother ?
Some of her tweets infer she had some issues in previous relationships and the fact that she was just about to make a speech does indicate she may have .
Maybe it was emotional abuse not physical ?
Some victims of abuse feel embarrassed / ashamed to tell other people about it which is why it often has gone on for a long time .
This can be the case with lots of forms of bullying . My daughter was once being bullied at school . She had said nothing but fortunately her friend came and told me so I was able to have it dealt with . To this day I am still surprised that she had put up with it without speaking out to me or her teachers .
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Reeva did reach out to her mother about Oscar though...and it would also seem there may have been some isolation starting to take place in her relationship with Oscar as well.
Read more: http://www.cosmopolitan.co.uk/lifes...pistorius-reeva-steenkamp-death#ixzz2xoO5ZdrsReeva was very close to her parents, but they never met Pistorius. Perhaps, tellingly, on the one and only occasion her mother, June, spoke to him, it was to issue a threat. Reeva had phoned from the athlete’s car in floods of tears: he was driving insanely fast and she was terrified.
‘I told her to give the phone to Oscar,’ says June. “I warned him that if he hurt my baby in any way, I would wipe him out. I know that sounds aggressive but I was desperate to keep Reeva safe. I couldn’t bear to think her life was in danger at his hands. He didn’t say very much, just “OK Mrs Steenkamp”.’
http://www.citypress.co.za/news/i-could-have-saved-reeva/What was Oscar like?
“Moody, I think. Very nice and charming to us when they started dating. Then he always came in to say hello. But when they began to date steadily, he just dropped her and picked her up. That’s not right. I call it respect. If you’re in a relationship and you pick up the ‘daughter’ in the house, at least come in and say hello.”
Cecil remembers their first date, shortly after she broke up with her former boyfriend.
“She went with Oscar to a sports-awards evening. And after that he wouldn’t leave her alone. He kept pestering her, phoning and phoning and phoning her.
“Oscar was hasty and impatient and very moody – that’s my impression of him.
“She told me he pushed her a bit into a corner. She felt caged in. I told her I would talk to him. I told him not to force himself on her. Back off.
He agreed, but his face showed me what he was thinking: ‘Oh, this guy is talking nonsense.’
He did cool down a bit. Then they started going out steadily, and she was more at his home.
“I once talked to her about Oscar’s moodiness. She didn’t answer me.”