italianWSfan
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I don't even think you have to be a bad parent for that sort of dichotomy to be established. I bet my neighbour would describe me as nice but harried, leading to speculation that I was struggling with the new family addition. I'm not, but she only sees us as I hurry the children to school and hope they won't be late, because their natural sleeping habits aren't compatible with school times no matter what I do. I'm sure there are people who have witnessed my middle child's tantrums and suspect I'm some sort of abusive monster, because she'll scream "You're hurting me!" even if you're barely touching her, in the hopes you'll let go and she can run off/refuse to move/win the argument. Sorry darling, I'd rather "hurt" you then let you run into oncoming traffic. The teachers at school would likely say we're a loving and involved family, with kids who are always happy and confident. Three views, all validated by personal observation but not painting the complete picture. I'm a fantastic mom, but sometimes I get fed up with the constant power struggles and react imperfectly, and sometimes we're rushing around like headless chickens and I end up frazzled because I hate being late, and sometimes I send the kids to bed half an hour early instead of doing bedtime stories because I really don't care about sibling squabble #319, and I don't check on sleeping kids if they are ill unless I have to. Neither a saint nor a sinner. At the end of the day, my kids are happy, safe, loved (and loving!) and thriving despite my flaws, so I'm doing alright.
I posted this in the last thread but bringing it over because it was right at the end:
I saw a Daily Mail article that said police won't confirm whether they were called about his welfare in the past, which I think might be addressing that story?
Awesome description of an "imperfect" mom. Could be me, really! :loveyou::loveyou:
Nobody is perfect, but that's the way it should be.