sonicfanaticsmommy
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The only Texas de Brazil I know of in this area is at Fair Oaks Mall in Fairfax.
Sorry for the multiple posts but I wanted to say that I too am perplexed at Bethany not living with her child. Tons of moms work, go to school, AND care for their child(ren) - myself included. And the fact that she was out of contact with her child from at least 1/29 until she was reported missing - no one thought that was unusual?? Which would indicate to me that her being out of contact with her son for long periods of time wasn't out of character
I don't find it perplexing or even unusual. While I myself worked, (full time), was in school (full time) and had 4 children, who lived with me, I had a great support system and was in my home town.
I think she chose the toddler living with her parents over daycare with strangers because she was putting in so many hours. In that kind of situation (if I had to go out of town to finish my schooling) I would have chosen to live apart from my children with them living with family, rather than put them in the hands of strangers for the largest part of the day.
I think it might have been the best situation for all concerned. However if that was not the reasoning behind it I will invoke my right to change my mind!
I think for me, the red flag isn't so much that the toddler was living with her parents, but that she obviously didn't have very regular contact with him. I can see someone making that difficult decision to temporarily place their child with family for various reasons, but I would have daily phone contact with my child. I would also make a point to visit him regularly- if not several times a week, at least once a week. That it took this family 3 full weeks of no contact with Bethany to sound the alarm tells me she was not a particularly active parent.
There's no judgment in that statement, just being honest. I don't think the family is doing Bethany any favors- definitely not increasing the likelihood of finding her- by pretending their relationship with her was different than the evidence shows it to be.
Oh yeah, I forgot to add that I think odds so far are that BF did it. Didn't mean to leave my theory hanging there.
I think he was pissed about the trip to Hawaii.
Is that her and her child on the first brother's facebook What a nice picture. My heart is seriously breaking for this family.
The Centreville man, the father of Decker's unborn child, saw Decker on Jan. 29, the court papers say. He moved out of Decker's Ashburn apartment in February, police said, and made conflicting reports to police about when he first noticed Decker's car parked outside her apartment, according to the affidavit.
http://www.wtop.com/?nid=159&sid=2296460
this article says (sorry c&p is a pain on my iPod) that hubby likely saw her early in the day on 1/29 and boyfriend saw her later that day - boyfriend WAS last known person to see her.