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This is a question for Carl, Bessie and probably Tricia. If Grateful Doe's family needs financial help to get him home, would it be possible for WS to set up some sort of account that we could contribute to?
 
TY bessie. We have a whole forum of Unidentifieds primarily because there are families who were so sure that one day they would just walk through the door. And after a while, it becomes a way of keeping them alive. I have spoken with families who have seen their loved one drift across the media in an attempt at identification and still they will tell you they didnt recognize their son/daughter/relative/friend.

If you ever get an opportunity to think about the price that you pay for closure sometimes, it is worth considering. Everyone deserves their name back. None of these cases happen in a vacuum. And most of the time, these loved ones have done the very best they can with the resources they have had to try and get this person back.

OK, Believe steps off soapbox.... :grouphug:

daisytrail-I am so sorry for your troubles and off to look at your daughter's circumstances.
 
This is a question for Carl, Bessie and probably Tricia. If Grateful Doe's family needs financial help to get him home, would it be possible for WS to set up some sort of account that we could contribute to?
 
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When my cousin disappeared in the 80s, the police refused to file a report because he was over 18 and a drug addict... despite the fact that another one of my cousins, the first one's half-brother in fact, was on the police force. Fortunately he finally came home and cleaned up. A while after getting sober he was out skateboarding when he took a fall the wrong way and crushed the base of his skull against a curb. My buddy was definitely being honest about being sober; all of his organs were donated. I like knowing that his heart is still out there beating.
 
zelmajane said:
Trying to wrap my head around someone waiting twenty years to report someone missing. I am sure there are plenty of reasons.
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If Jason had run away from home (and that's just a what-if, not a fact of any kind) his parting words could have been something like "I never want to see you again" and maybe she just thought that she didn't have a good case to present to the missing persons department. That's just a thought I'd had. Again, I know zero details, just like the rest of us.
 
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When my cousin disappeared in the 80s, the police refused to file a report because he was over 18 and a drug addict... despite the fact that another one of my cousins, the first one's half-brother in fact, was on the police force. Fortunately he finally came home and cleaned up. A while after getting sober he was out skateboarding when he took a fall the wrong way and crushed the base of his skull against a curb. My buddy was definitely being honest about being sober; all of his organs were donated. I like knowing that his heart is still out there beating.
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All these years later, and the police do not seem to have improved their compassionate instincts. My heart goes out to your family for those lost years. I am glad your cousin had some good years. All people make mistakes. They should be valued more often for their humanity rather than judged for their mistakes. Justice requires that all the missing be valued as human beings.
 
Roselvr said:
Have to say that my heart really sunk when I saw the 2 articles that came out; one in Myrtle Beach another in Champaign IL. Many people here have worked this case for many years with no luck; greymetal told me she's followed it for 5 years. There have been many articles written about GDF; there is also the FB page as well as the event. SSA & myself have an album for him on our page Never Forget Me; yet the right person was not hit with any of them. It is possible they saw one; but did not connect it due to the newer recon. It's hard to say.
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Completely agree! I'm very disappointed. Numerous interviews and articles have been given over the last few days all have been "I I I" "Me Me Me" I personally haven't seen any of the news articles state the actual lead came from Greymetal's post on Reddit! All said and done, it is about Greatful Doe, but it also comes down to what this website is all about ... TRUE FACTS.
 
also, seems she may have nit a rough patch (divorced, not sure how/why her daughter died young) but it's also SC and she married a black man - I't possible that local authorities never respected her or where she was at that point in life. And seeing he was over 16 and following a band, it would be almost impossible for them to even know where to start. Least we forget cell phones/texting, etc wasn't common/given. In college and right after, I would go months without calling home to talk to my parents, usually right before break. This woman had started a new family and probably prayed one day Jason would come back grown-up. It's sad all the way around.
 
vengeance712 said:
also, seems she may have nit a rough patch (divorced, not sure how/why her daughter died young) but it's also SC and she married a black man - I't possible that local authorities never respected her or where she was at that point in life. And seeing he was over 16 and following a band, it would be almost impossible for them to even know where to start. Least we forget cell phones/texting, etc wasn't common/given. In college and right after, I would go months without calling home to talk to my parents, usually right before break. This woman had started a new family and probably prayed one day Jason would come back grown-up. It's sad all the way around.
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All good points!

I also wonder when these questioners think she should have reported him missing. He probably didn't have definite plans to return. He could have hopped on or off the tour anywhere. If he doesn't come home after the summer, she is worried. He's not home by Christmas, she's even more worried, maybe a little scared. But for all mom knew, he could have settled down and started a life somewhere (I'm sure that's what she hoped). At what point was she supposed to decide "My son is missing" and report that to the authorities? What would she give them to go on? Not much, as others have stated. And the longer it got, the more she moved on with everyday life- never stopped thinking about him (obvious by fb posts), never stopped hoping he might just show up one day, maybe with a wife and kids- but probably never really thinking of him as "missing" either.
 
I also learned recently that the language you use with the police when you go to file a report probably matters. (No, I am not saying that you should not curse at the police, although that probably would not help!). Do not ask, "Would you please look for my daughter?" They probably would not care if you went to your knees and begged. Instead, say firmly, "I wish to file a report." Sometimes the state law says that the police must take the report, but then, in a contradictory fashion, leaves the discretion on reports up to the local authorities.
 
daisytrail said:
I also learned recently that the language you use with the police when you go to file a report probably matters. (No, I am not saying that you should not curse at the police, although that probably would not help!). Do not ask, "Would you please look for my daughter?" They probably would not care if you went to your knees and begged. Instead, say firmly, "I wish to file a report." Sometimes the state law says that the police must take the report, but then, in a contradictory fashion, leaves the discretion on reports up to the local authorities.
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This is true. A lot of cops are apathetic so you need to frame your situation in terms that make it relevant to them.
 
iziguzag said:
Completely agree! I'm very disappointed. Numerous interviews and articles have been given over the last few days all have been "I I I" "Me Me Me" I personally haven't seen any of the news articles state the actual lead came from Greymetal's post on Reddit! All said and done, it is about Greatful Doe, but it also comes down to what this website is all about ... TRUE FACTS.
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The article that Greta Van Susteren just tweeted does mention more accurate details and doesn't focus on the mother (as much).
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http://www.foxnews.com/us/2015/01/1...person-report-for-deadhead-son-missing-since/
 
Confirmation here from Jason's Mom, that Jason is Jason/Jay from the real photo's. Now we wait for confirmation or for him to be ruled out as Grateful Doe.

We talked with Callahan's mother, who did not want to go on camera, but told us, "I am just waiting for everything to be put together to see if it is my son, to see if it is a positive match."

Callahan's mother also confirmed that the photos of the man named Jason posted to the Grateful Doe Facebook page are those of her son, Jason Callahan.
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http://www.wset.com/story/27861539/myrtle-beach-police-opening-investigation-into-grateful-doe
 
rainwater said:
Keep your eyes on Namus.gov UP 6095. When the page is no longer available and is taken down, Grateful Doe will have been identified.

https://identifyus.org/en/cases/6095
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The folks at NamUs know that we watch for that. So frequently, they will leave a casefile up for a while, or at least until the news is broken. Or sometimes they purposely don't close the matched MP and UP casefiles at the same time, so we won't read the tea leaves.
 
rainwater said:
Keep your eyes on Namus.gov UP 6095. When the page is no longer available and is taken down, Grateful Doe will have been identified.

https://identifyus.org/en/cases/6095
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This is a high profile case; I'm sure there will be a presser after his mother is notified. Todd Matthews follows this case too

For you other question I spoke to Alyssa via text; gave her tips on how to keep everyone honest. When or if the time comes; everyone can donate directly to the funeral home or cemetery (if grave has to be opened may be $500 charge) also the headstone company. Each place can cut the donations off when the amount is raised if she needs help. I've had a case where a relative pocketed the money; headstone was never bought.
 
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