Ontario Mom
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It REALLY annoys me.
I totally agree that just because someone has a criminal record, it does not mean they should automatically be a POI in a murder case. And, If someone has past DUI's or drug charges or burglaries, etc, it does not make them violent, necessarily.
So people in Wes's family/friend circle have tried to say that he is not violent because he was never convicted of anything violent. And normally I would agree. I do not like to count arrests as indications of guilt. [ although SOMETIMES where there is smoke there is fire...] But I know a young man very well, that was arrested for date rape when he was a freshman in college---ad he was totally innocent and charges were dropped. luckily. So I would hate it if he was considered violent because of just that arrest when she was proven to be and admitted that she lied. It does happen tha way sometimes.
But that does not seem to be the case at all with Wes's past charges. From everything that I have read, his ex DID testify under oath that he was violent and aggressive. So it bothers me when people say ' he wasn't violent--he just robbed a bank...' :no:
I completely understand and agree with what you're saying. It REALLY annoys me as well but... it's the dance. Happens ALL the time, and I know you know that, with all the cases you've followed here at WS It's what the perp does to engage in CYA and it's what the closest friends and family do because... denial. And the perp actually counts on his 'people' to say exactly what they say because... no conviction on "those" charges.
I've seen it so many times I've lost count. But what I've also seen is, eventually, the veneer cracks. Eventually, sooner or later, those in denial see the light, piece things together and come forward. Sometimes, it's THOSE people that come to terms with themselves and approach LE with what they know, that break a case and bring justice to the victim. (I haven't followed it since the arrest but in Bud and June Runion's case it was the father of the perp, and you KNOW it broke his heart but he had to do what was right).
This is why I've said so many times that it's NOT just the primary victim and their family that suffer but also the family of the perp as well. In some cases, that's actually the same people but regardless, I cannot even imagine being the one who says "yes, I think my son did this, and here's why" or "yes, my brother is a liar and here's what he told me". NO ONE wants to be in that position. Ever.