Recent content by mrbeansmom

You could well be right about all you've said, but I don't read a lot into that photo. It looks like she's taking a selfie and a lot of folks do that, where they're looking at the camera instead of the one they're giving a kiss to.

In most cases, yes.

One of mine was removed from the birth family at 5 months of age, after having been passed around from family member to friends to family and so on. Once in CPS care, this baby was moved 7 times between foster home and receiving home until we received the child at 12 months of age. We were the...

When we were foster parents years ago, Foster Cline came to speak to us at one of our support groups. He is kind of the grandfather of Reactive Attachment and, really, I believe the first one to start diagnosing it. Anyway, he told us of children who had been in the hospital, even when their...

Actually, it can develop anytime during the first five years. There are instances of children developing RAD after lengthy hospital stays in older children.

Absolutely spot on. Our daughter can turn tears on and off to her advantage in a manner that would break your heart. Never mind that she doesn't mean one bit of it. Now that's not to say that Serenity might have been feeling genuine sadness at the break up of her parents, but that would surprise...

I agree.

People lie all the time to adopt children. I've seen it. Or they think kids are the answer that will save their marriage. In cases of RAD, it will destroy an already unhealthy marriage.

It is possible to go through multiple adoptions back to back, but each comes with it's own set of circumstances, and too often not enough care is given to what's taking place. Sometimes you'll get a call for a foster/adopt placement while you have one you've had for awhile, and the timing just...

Thank you. As an adoptive parent of six children with significant special needs, I can attest to RAD being the greatest challenge of them all, including Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and Autism. I have two with RAD, both living out of the home now. Our son is 26 now and lives in a group home. He has no...

Really? I got the impression the running off was taking place before she went to the children's home. I'll have to go back and listen again. Will the interview with the adoptive mom be on the same site?

She also described a history of running off...

Legally, she does belong to her adoptive parents, just like my adopted kids belong to me. However, residential treatment centers are paid for by the county when a child has been adopted, even though they legally belong to their adoptive parent. This is from California, where I live. Most states...

That may be true in some instances, but not in my experience. With adoptions, the most common length of stay is 18 months. After that, an extension can be requested, and granted, for those where little progress has been made. Virtually all of the kids in the facility my child is in have their...

I'm sorry, I wrote that incorrectly. They pay for room, board and therapy. Education is on the parent unless the rtc is able to work it into the fee as something other than education.