Recent content by NotMeAnymore

Just want to clarify, BDSM is not about finding a man or looking for somebody to take care of you, it is about a need to feel helpless and dominated (or in the case of the dominant a need to bind and dominate). A desire for pain is often also involved. I think that difference is important to...

Oh, joyjoy. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make it sound as if I were offended. I have run into a few people in the community who get a little defensive when BDSM is in the news for something like this and I thought that maybe that was what was happening and I wanted to make sure that you didn't...

Hi joyjoy, this is a great post and an important reminder, however, I don't think that anybody insinuated that everybody looking for extreme slavery is broken. I think the thing that most here are taking away from this is that there are people like Zelich who taint the pool for the ones who are...

This is all very similar to the conclusions I am coming to, as well. Especially the girl in a cage not really existing.

There it is. Thank you, Aeronomy! I couldn't find that for the life of me.

That's so weird because I could have sworn that I read something that mentioned LE saying that he had kept the bodies in an upright freezer for part of the time but I can't find it anywhere. Must have been a blank that I filled in myself and my mind tricked me into thinking I had read it. So it...

Didn't he keep both bodies in a freezer for a while, though? I believe that he took them out of the freezer because he knew the police were on to him and ended up keeping them in his car trunk for a couple of weeks or a little more trying to figure out what to do with them. I'm pretty sure that...

I don't think he shared much with anybody. As he told JSR he didn't really mesh well with other people in the BDSM community because of how extreme his interests were. He never talked about anybody else he knew in the community to me. I'm pretty sure that the pics were to keep for himself. In...

Well, I almost did but you're right even I didn't take the plunge at my darkest time, there are not many at all who really would give a normal life up for this even if their life isn't going their way. I am extremely interested in seeing where your research on this takes you. Hopefully, this...

OOOHHHH! I never thought of it that way. For some reason I just kept focusing on the selling part. Of course, the buying part I would believe, absolutely.

I'm wondering if the financial stuff had to do with all the hotels and BDSM equipment. That stuff is really expensive and can add up quickly.

I would be careful about that, though. I don't know if he was serious when he said it to me and like JSR said, he didn't have a lot of friends in the community. I also think that he might have been more financially well off if he were involved in trafficking, although I will admit that I know...

I find what you said towards the end to be very true, "Our life experiences aren't worth much unless we learn from them and are willing to share that knowledge." I heard a story recently on a podcast about a guy who's father was shot by his mother in front of him. The interviewer told him that...

In my case, the only time he took pictures was when I was bound.

I think he probably didn't stalk me because I was so far away. It was a long drive for him and that was probably way too big of a risk.