Thank you Nova. I'm even hoping, in time, if the gf is up/open to it, to develop some kind of coordial relationship with her myself. She's a divorced mother to a now 19 yr old. My ex has no other children. Not sure how or if that will happen/work.
My parents divorced when I was 10 ( I'm now 41). After the first 9 mo's my dad lived 3 blocks away. We kids could go back and forth whenever we wanted. My parents had what was called "reserved" custody long before joint custody was in existance, at least here in my state, IL. In the summer my dad took care of the lawn and bushes at moms place. We had family dinners sometimes on Sundays when my dad would come over and bbq. I had the example, everyone has used for the last 30 or so years on how split parents should act for the kids. It's been very difficult for me that my sons father didn't share the same mindset. He's done some pretty nasty things. But......... my perception MUST be seperated from that of my sons. It's still foreign to me parents would not do that for their kids, even as difficult as it is for the adults.
I'm appalled this mother would use her/their sexuality as a way to interfer with her sons other legal mom.
