RBBM
Agreed (with your whole post, but especially this part). This is the very difference, to me, between someone with antisocial personality disorder and someone who has personality disorder(s) and is also psychopathic. There are many similarities so they're often compared - both crimes physically brutal; both women enlisted help of men in their lives, men they manipulated; both women used sexuality to their advantage; both women claimed domestic violence; both women lied, repeatedly, etc.
Yet the difference is astounding. Jodi has nearly reveled, almost gleefully, at times in her crime. She's done many things more accomplished psychopaths would never do which fly in the face of self-preservation. In a way, she's her own worst enemy - her psychopathy is so severe she doesn't know when to stop, she can't control her impulsivity, she can't constrain her need for absolute, constant control over everything, and she can't see past her own ego. I only wish the jury were privy to even half of it.