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Court's Indulgence
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Thanks. I didn't go full-on-journal-keeping crazy. I did, however, learn a lot more about computers at the time. And I may have done a drive-by here and there. When my fog finally lifted, I couldn't believe how consumed I had been. I guess we're all different, so we react in different ways. But like you said, when you find out the person in the ultimate position of trust in your life has been lying to you, you just don't know how you're going to react. In my situation, I didn't find myself wanting revenge on "the other women." I was trying to prove to myself that I wasn't paranoid or insane, thinking he was cheating on me, by gathering EVIDENCE. When I had enough evidence, I snapped out of it and filed for divorce. A friend once told me "the best revenge is living a happy life." I took those words to heart and set my sails in that direction.I'm very sorry you had to experience that (but very glad you didn't end up being in a thread here on WS, lol.)
I suspect I would react the same way even knowing how masochistic it is.
Sorry to get us off topic. Just wanted to say that when you're cheated on/lied to (especially when you thought your marriage was forever), you may do things you never thought you'd do. You may not recognize yourself for a while. Again though, not taking up for TM or siding with her in the slightest.