southernyankee
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I agree to a point, but saw it happening for a different reason. I thought it was more a way of distancing themselves, not because of guilt or knowledge of the incident, but because they found it to be too horrid to actually say. Many (maybe most) people tend to use euphemisms when speaking of the death of someone close to them,, or when expressing condolences to someone who has "lost" someone close. We don't say, "I'm sorry your mother died.", we say something like, "I'm sorry for your loss." We also tend to say things like, "George passed away last week.", "I lost my brother 3 years ago.", "My daughter lost her battle with <whatever illness>.", or even "My dog crossed the rainbow bridge." I think a lot of people feel like died, dead, murdered, etc. are just too harsh to use when speaking about someone they love/loved.
I didn't see anything suspicious about either phrase because I know many people who would never be able to say about a friend ... "And then she was attacked and lit on fire." or even, "And then she was murdered." His comment I understood to mean more like, "I hate that it happened." which I think most of us feel. MOO
Oh, I don't disagree on this at all! Thank you so much for pointing this out, though. I didn't mean to hint that it was necessarily suspicious - saying "happen." I guess the lack of I/she/we/you in the statements - I just found it sort of vague and kind of cowardly. More on Sha-sha's part. "That's when it happened."
But you are totally right. I absolutely hate that it happened, too. In fact, I think we all do.