The former TLC's '19 Kids and Counting' star's memoir 'Counting the Cost' is on bookshelves now.
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Jill is so brave. It sounds like her disclosures about her abuse by her brother Josh Duggar, were extremely difficult.
Yeah. Except I wouldn't say she disclosed. It wasn't her choice that the information was out.
Like so many things, the leak of this information happened to her. Like so many things, it especially impacted her, yet her voice could not stop it. And the support she got from her family being appalled at the leak seemed far more about protecting the abusers, not the victims.
But by all appearances, after all that has happened to her, she is handling it very well.
They say hurt people hurt people. I think that's true. But from what I see in Shiny Happy People and other media, Jill is handling the her hurt responsibly, with a real therapist, and minimizing the chances of passing damage on. She obviously has the strength to get her life on track to be her own, and the good char to use that strengt.
I can disagree with some hateful things her husband tweeted, without any pushback from her, and at they same time think, you go girl!
She had so many traumas, and she is overcoming them positively. It is amazing to see someone so controlled for so long, and also experiencing poverty and food insecurity as a younger child, being raised to fear EVERYTHING, other people, even her own thoughts, being blamed for her own abuse, later in childhood living a very watched life, all faked for the cameras, and being even more stared at then when they were impoverished children in strange clothing, but having food in the house. The subject of this watched life was frankly her and her siblings sex life. ( Or purity life. Her purity is none of our business just like her sex life.) It's extra hard to figure out how you feel about having to pretend you are hearing an announcement for the first time before a huge camera crew, having to be perfect or take the shot again, when that severely intrusive life comes with a meals. It reminds me of how sex workers likely slide into the life...it was humiliating and way too personal and I'm not being my genuine self. But, hey! I can pay the rent!
The sex worker analogy isn't even a good one; Jill had no choice. It's not like anyone asked her if she wanted to trade privacy for food. And when she tried to stop making that trade, most of her support system turned against her.
She was basically a victim of child trafficking. But she survived. I think she is going to thrive.
MOO