I'll certainly didn't mean to imply that, and understand how my statement does appear to convey that.
I guess what I'm trying to say... Is, as we see with so many families here, exposed to horrific trauma, the ability to heal is in the answers to the questions .... why did this happen, how did this happen, who's responsible, who's accountable, what are we going to do to prevent it in the future.
I don't think we can heal until we know what and why. It's just human nature. We see families suffer through trials, seeking answers.
Moo