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Defense motion for an acquittal.
No wonder Mr. Anderson is so fired up this morning— he is fierce, IMO. Some interesting legal arguments.
Defense motion for an acquittal.
A DCF employee testified that Maya seemed happy 'almost all the time' and another said she was the one to interrupt the family's calls.
I have had experiance with having 3 different children with conditions that were painful and not normal conditions. My first experiance being a 3 year old who presented as cranky and bruised and looked like a battered child by the time she was was found to be suffering from ALL. she went from perfect to dying in 2 weeks. She was said to have had ALL for 1 year before they caught it (i caught it but they say they did ). I had to fight everyone both times for them to find out what was wrong with my kids. ..both times abuse and mistreat was flaunted to my family friends and different doctors as causes.With my son presenting with fissues due to crohns ,with made my sons doctors ask me if I thought he was being sexually abused. Instant trama. I questioned me and my judgements for 30 seconds. Then only because my son has only been with people I trust 100 percent his entire each minute on this planet . God blessed me there and a few other places.Love that guy. My 3 third crazy case happened when after 5 trips to the doctor in 2 years for weird skin rashes. ,they found my 9 year old baby in stage 4 liver failure. The doctor said it was allergies. It was not. She had a whole live transplant. Someone else ,lost their whole child so she got to live.The only reason. 14 months ago. She is 11 now.I think the hospital acted in Maya’s best interests at first, there was enough cause for concern to suspect MBP, and in the years since Maya’s condition appears to have drastically improved. Maya was a young child and her recollection could well have been influenced by hearing her family discussing the hospital and their experience. There are a lot of things that leave me uncomfortable here and to any medical professional confronted by a parent demanding that their child gets Ketamine is cause for concern IMO. There
There’s lots more I want to say especially about MBP but I don’t know if I can word it in a way that won’t offend.
The hospital’s actions were far far from innocent and IMO certain staff acted unfairly. But IMO their actions in keeping Beata from Maya were justified with legitimate concerns that she was at risk at that time. In the eyes of the hospital the risk was Beata sourcing Ketamine herself and ‘treating’ Maya.
All MOO and I know many will disagree
How did they justify when she didn’t get better when mom wasn’t around? I can almost see what you are saying, but I do disagree. The person that was able to get an abuse allegation to stick started to believe abuse before she even met Maya. She is a very powerful lady and admittedly believes abuse before anything else because of the trauma she has experienced while doing her job.I think the hospital acted in Maya’s best interests at first, there was enough cause for concern to suspect MBP, and in the years since Maya’s condition appears to have drastically improved. Maya was a young child and her recollection could well have been influenced by hearing her family discussing the hospital and their experience. There are a lot of things that leave me uncomfortable here and to any medical professional confronted by a parent demanding that their child gets Ketamine is cause for concern IMO. There
There’s lots more I want to say especially about MBP but I don’t know if I can word it in a way that won’t offend.
The hospital’s actions were far far from innocent and IMO certain staff acted unfairly. But IMO their actions in keeping Beata from Maya were justified with legitimate concerns that she was at risk at that time. In the eyes of the hospital the risk was Beata sourcing Ketamine herself and ‘treating’ Maya.
All MOO and I know many will disagree
Your post is “so clear” to meI have had experiance with having 3 different children with conditions that were painful and not normal conditions. My first experiance being a 3 year old who presented as cranky and bruised and looked like a battered child by the time she was was found to be suffering from ALL. she went from perfect to dying in 2 weeks. She was said to have had ALL for 1 year before they caught it (i caught it but they say they did ). I had to fight everyone both times for them to find out what was wrong with my kids. ..both times abuse and mistreat was flaunted to my family friends and different doctors as causes.With my son presenting with fissues due to crohns ,with made my sons doctors ask me if I thought he was being sexually abused. Instant trama. I questioned me and my judgements for 30 seconds. Then only because my son has only been with people I trust 100 percent his entire each minute on this planet . God blessed me there and a few other places.Love that guy. My 3 third crazy case happened when after 5 trips to the doctor in 2 years for weird skin rashes. ,they found my 9 year old baby in stage 4 liver failure. The doctor said it was allergies. It was not. She had a whole live transplant. Someone else ,lost their whole child so she got to live.The only reason. 14 months ago. She is 11 now.
The MBP is way more rare than most conditions parents get pinned with it for and it doesnt get figured out for months or years ,unless someone gets convicted . IMOO.
My take..
If you as a mom have never sat and hugged and cryed with your child who is hurting ,and you have to tell your child you do not know, and cant do anything to help their pain... while watching them hurt every day ,knowing as a parent who loves them more than anything ,you cannot do anything. It is not going to be okay ,it is going to hurt and you cant help. As a mom it does make you want to die. The hospital and doctors are your hope. Beata had zero hope. Some parents have to tell their kids that the child is dying or they do not know.. I have had to really consider this in my life ..Thankfully all the sick kids is fine, two are cured and one is going to have to tuff it out but the future , it is much more beautiful than it used to be, less carefree but good. .
This post is probably confusing to most people ,and so clear to others. It might sound good to judge people on what you know and all that but when it comes to watching a chid suffer in a way that causes them to hurt so bad they want to give up ,or be so tired they are just happy to look at there favorite activity from across the room and it still makes them happy even though they cant pick it up.
It is sad.
I am going to take a break . Or rather I am going to be busy ,my son is moving from peds to adult treatment . YAY! I guess that takes 4 appointments to the build a new team ..or rather work him into their center for life. He turned 18 ,but every ped nurse he ever had has left his office for new jobs ,his last 3 months of peds treatment. ,one or two a month until his very last appiontment ,everyone was a stranger . He is sad , and they all got new jobs . He misses them and he was their job. Its a screwed up way to live for a kid. I over heard tons of gossip. I always knew most of the staff is cliche'.
(probably not taking a break ,hooked)
rsbmBut, as to another point, I’m sure I read somewhere that doctors said Maya did improve when Beata was not around. I will try and find out where I read that, I’m sure it was mentioned in the documentary when they showed depositions of the health professionals?Even so, sometimes some children can become convinced themselves that they are in pain when all they keep hearing is parents telling others they are in pain.
All MOO
rsbm
bbm -I recall reading that as well.
How did they justify when she didn’t get better when mom wasn’t around? I can almost see what you are saying, but I do disagree. The person that was able to get an abuse allegation to stick started to believe abuse before she even met Maya. She is a very powerful lady and admittedly believes abuse before anything else because of the trauma she has experienced while doing her job.
Maya was abused, but not by her parents. There is proof that the diagnosis they told the hospital about was true by multiple doctors. But a person without a medical degree determined that they were wrong.
I have too often read about DCS not looking in to abuse claims and a child dies. I do think they had an obligation to look for abuse, but when nothing pointed to abuse, they were way too stubborn to admit they were wrong. The hospital abused Maya and her family IMVHO
(Snipped by me)Beata exhibited some controlling and bizarre behaviour at times IMO, recording and videoing Maya’s doctor visits way before things were questioned or any accusations were made.
I hope i didnt make you feel called out or something.It wasn’t my intention to bash anyone who’s had a poorly child and had to deal with doctors who don’t listen. I agree it’s my worst nightmare, my 11 year old has always been deathly pale, easily bruised, developed an enlarged lymph node and a lump on the side of his jaw. I went through pure panic mode, the doctors were rather dismissive and I pushed further. Fortunately it was an infection rather than anything serious - Leukemia is what instantly came to my mind so I can’t imagine how you felt with that diagnosis, but I’m really glad that your child is doing ok now.
So much more too. if you need to talk message trisha and show her this post . She has my number.. she used it once but she is on top of it . She is an excellect pre-screener and a very honest person and her turtle shell is hard. Love her. Thank god for public radio. miss it.Your post is “so clear” to me
Thank you for sharing it
One of my children had brain cancer when she was three years old- the size of an orange by the time she was diagnosed…
I was accused of lots of things by different doctors
I feel lucky and grateful we were eventually able to get a correct diagnosis
I get everything you said♡
My experiences were similar
Isnt your mom the one you show your most true -st exposed self too?rsbm
bbm -I recall reading that as well.