deelytful1
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I finally got to see the documentary on-line a few days ago. I think it was kinda one sided. I grew up in NY and I knew a few Dianes and Daniels.
I know it was edited to the POV from the person directing the documentary and I was wondering if there was any complaints from the Schuler family about their representation? You can't say they are a "quiet" family when it comes to their opinion, so if there was nothing in the news, that means they condone the story.
In any case, this is MY take on what I saw and keep in mind this is MOO.
Daniel is an absolute momma's boy who never had to take responsibility for anything since momma did it all. He found a woman like Diane that would take charge of everything!! I mean, look at the SIL? Apparently, his brother was just like him and found a woman like Jay because she is a take charge kinda gal herself!
Daniel can NOT admit or accept the fact of what Diane did. Not to save her image as a wonderful wife, mother and aunt, but to protect his OWN image.
I don't represent everyone in the state of NY but I'll tell you what my friends and I would surmise: He knew she liked to party and they partied together. THIS is why he didn't want to have kids! He wanted to continue their carefree, no responsibility life of doing what they wanted, when they wanted it. I'm sure they stayed up before the night of the accident drinking and smoking because that's what a weekend vacation away is all about. Kicking back and getting loose. (at least, when you're carefree!) Maybe they even stayed up all night? I'm sorry but he claims he was getting things packed up at 5-6 AM? Why so early? Unless, they figured, "no going to sleep now, we'll never get up!" (I've been there, done that in my party days) In my sober days, I'd be sleeping til the kids woke ME up! I know the kids had play practice that day, but in no way did they need to start getting ready so early. "Beating the traffic" in NY is LEAVING for home at 6 AM, not leaving at 9 AM.
I think it is very telling that Diane gave up all her very close friends when she got together with Daniel. Besides having to devote her every minute to him, she isolated. She didn't want to hear her friends' negative feedback about Daniel and the way he treated her (as good friends will most certainly give, especially from NY!) Alcohol and pot became her friend. They are always there for you and will never judge.
Diane is a classic case for alcohol abuse and a part of me does feel somewhat sorry for what she may have gone through in her addiction. I'm not excusing her actions at ALL but if any of you know addiction, you know its a lonely, twisted road.
Daniel's lawsuit is a combination of his guilt and because, at least in NY, your spouse is a reflection of yourself. YOU made the choice and if your spouse is disliked (in this case hated by some now) that makes you (Daniel) look badly. He can't say he knew she had a problem because people will blame him for THAT "Why didn't you get her help? How could you let her drive with the kids in the car if you know she drinks and smokes pot?", etc..
Being the mama's boy who can never take responsibility, he is unable to say he's sorry for what happened and move on. All he can do is lash out at and blame everyone else for the tragedy. He'll probably do things like this lawsuit his whole life in the need to deflect any and all negativity towards what his wife did from himself.
IMO he is somewhat grieving for his wife but grieving the fact that now he has to do everything on his own for himself and his son and doesn't have anyone to cook for him and clean and iron for him.
Bottom line, I think he is a selfish and arrogant man and if he continues to mentally and emotionally abuse his son (as evidenced by his impatience and lack of empathy according to his own SIL) I think someone else should take care of that little boy.
Lastly, I am still haunted by the three pictures of Diane's dead body from the documentary. Don't think it was really necessary when we saw how mangled the car was.
I know it was edited to the POV from the person directing the documentary and I was wondering if there was any complaints from the Schuler family about their representation? You can't say they are a "quiet" family when it comes to their opinion, so if there was nothing in the news, that means they condone the story.
In any case, this is MY take on what I saw and keep in mind this is MOO.
Daniel is an absolute momma's boy who never had to take responsibility for anything since momma did it all. He found a woman like Diane that would take charge of everything!! I mean, look at the SIL? Apparently, his brother was just like him and found a woman like Jay because she is a take charge kinda gal herself!
Daniel can NOT admit or accept the fact of what Diane did. Not to save her image as a wonderful wife, mother and aunt, but to protect his OWN image.
I don't represent everyone in the state of NY but I'll tell you what my friends and I would surmise: He knew she liked to party and they partied together. THIS is why he didn't want to have kids! He wanted to continue their carefree, no responsibility life of doing what they wanted, when they wanted it. I'm sure they stayed up before the night of the accident drinking and smoking because that's what a weekend vacation away is all about. Kicking back and getting loose. (at least, when you're carefree!) Maybe they even stayed up all night? I'm sorry but he claims he was getting things packed up at 5-6 AM? Why so early? Unless, they figured, "no going to sleep now, we'll never get up!" (I've been there, done that in my party days) In my sober days, I'd be sleeping til the kids woke ME up! I know the kids had play practice that day, but in no way did they need to start getting ready so early. "Beating the traffic" in NY is LEAVING for home at 6 AM, not leaving at 9 AM.
I think it is very telling that Diane gave up all her very close friends when she got together with Daniel. Besides having to devote her every minute to him, she isolated. She didn't want to hear her friends' negative feedback about Daniel and the way he treated her (as good friends will most certainly give, especially from NY!) Alcohol and pot became her friend. They are always there for you and will never judge.
Diane is a classic case for alcohol abuse and a part of me does feel somewhat sorry for what she may have gone through in her addiction. I'm not excusing her actions at ALL but if any of you know addiction, you know its a lonely, twisted road.
Daniel's lawsuit is a combination of his guilt and because, at least in NY, your spouse is a reflection of yourself. YOU made the choice and if your spouse is disliked (in this case hated by some now) that makes you (Daniel) look badly. He can't say he knew she had a problem because people will blame him for THAT "Why didn't you get her help? How could you let her drive with the kids in the car if you know she drinks and smokes pot?", etc..
Being the mama's boy who can never take responsibility, he is unable to say he's sorry for what happened and move on. All he can do is lash out at and blame everyone else for the tragedy. He'll probably do things like this lawsuit his whole life in the need to deflect any and all negativity towards what his wife did from himself.
IMO he is somewhat grieving for his wife but grieving the fact that now he has to do everything on his own for himself and his son and doesn't have anyone to cook for him and clean and iron for him.
Bottom line, I think he is a selfish and arrogant man and if he continues to mentally and emotionally abuse his son (as evidenced by his impatience and lack of empathy according to his own SIL) I think someone else should take care of that little boy.
Lastly, I am still haunted by the three pictures of Diane's dead body from the documentary. Don't think it was really necessary when we saw how mangled the car was.