i get that people don't want to blame sandy and her husband for jodi. but they did raise her. they've known her all her life. i think they had other kids, they were running a business and they let a lot of things she did ride, thinking it was a 'phase' or that it would pass, or whatever. buying time and hoping things would get better.
i think the ariases were ignorant of what they were actually dealing with. they had this one kid who sucked the oxygen out of the family, and they looked the other way because they didn't know what to do. when she hit her teens, things really blew up and then she left. who knows if there were teachers or counselors along the way who tried to head off this disaster. in any case, someone's dead because of her, and i can't entirely say her parents are blameless in this situation.