Thanks to everyone who said nice things about my post. Sometimes it's important for me to remember where I came from, and where I am today. By the Grace of God I have stayed sober, it was certainly nothing I could do on my own.
I'm sorry if I offended you, but for the most part and after attending AA meetings for all these years, MOO is that alcoholics are selfish and self-centered while NOT in recovery or while using. A person is not in recovery if they are not getting help, even though they may be sober, that's the way I learned it anyway. I am also co-dependent and qualified for many of the 12 Step programs. I have been on both sides of the fence unfortunately. I am an alcoholic and married one. I really don't recall reading anywhere that Terri was attending AA meetings, and for me that is a very important factor in recovery. I honestly don't think she could have been living a very sober life if she was hiring MFH landscapers and sexting. The 12 Steps and these things just don't go together. MOO. Once an alcoholic crosses the line (DUI?) they are an alcoholic for life as far as I know. This is MOO.
I would find it plausible too, but then there's this. I don't think J***** is a liar.
http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/index.ssf/2010/08/terri_horman.html
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J*****, who is staying with his father, Ron Tarver, in Roseburg, said his mother treated Kyron like her own son.
"The only difference between her relationship with Kyron and me was the difference in ages," he said.
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Although the couple fought, they did so in private. J*****said he only heard his mother and Kaine fight once in eight years. He described Kaine as calm but strict. "If you didn't follow the rules, you'd get in trouble," J***** said.
I wonder if they've had J***** take a LDT?
Im sorry but after reading all of this why didnt he just let Kyron stay with his bio Mother and her husband? Even the bio Mom, didnt it upset her when a 7 yr old seemed VERY upset about having to leave her? I think Kyron had a very confusing life. I wish he couldve stayed with his bio Mom. She ALSO HAD A RIGHT to know step Mum was drinking so I dont think much of her X but......Im the type no 7 yr old of mine wouldve lived with someone else no way. In the pics, TH does seem to love Kyron and do alot with him but maybe she secretely resented him. Well, from what Desiree now says from reading emailsI guess she did
This has just turned into one big mud slinging fiasco with a little boy GONE probably dead somewhere. As far as the Dad not talking about it before, he did owe it to the bio Mom to talk about it, it involved her sons safety IMO. She seemed clueless although she had Kyron crying alot when he had to leave her.
But I don't think Desiree would have won...she didn't know what she knows now. A judge is not going to remove a child from his current home on a "feeling." Desiree really had no choice but to go along with Kaine. She was probably hoping Terri would convince Kaine to allow Kyron to move to Medford...
Maybe she would have or maybe not. IF that were me I would die trying if my child was having issues at school and was having problems going to a home that is all he really knew. That is a huge red flag IMO. Desiree had plenty of choices, she just let Kaine control it all IMO. I don't think Terri would need much convincing according to what Desiree stated. It sounded to me like she wanted him gone and now we really know she did. It's all just sad. I'm not blaming Desiree. I know she didn't know it all back then. I'm just a little perplexed that in her heart she knew things weren't exactly right and she didn't follow that motherly intuition fully.