37,000+ replies and we have read them all (not including the posts that have been reposted as quotes and that you end up reading as well!).
Just HAD to join so I could be promoted from lurker to poster!
I have no expertise but have felt the compulsion to add my thoughts to the thousands here already to a case that has caught our hearts as a nation.
I don't know Allison but I am a mum of 2 primary school age kids and every night since her disappearance, discovery and subsequent arrest of her husband, I have held both my kids a bit tighter so they know how much I love them and how blessed I am to have them in my arms and in my life.
Like others here, my husband thinks my interest borders on obsessive and in part I agree. The clean washing now resembles Mt Washmore, the floors aren't quite so shiny, my university lectures are languishing on the desk and the dogs smell like, well.....dogs. I don't think it is a "car crash" mentality that we are experiencing, but more of OMG that could be me/my sister/my friend, such is the incidence of domestic anguish in our society where the family unit is more isolated from traditional norms.
My only contribution is that of agreement of others in that if I had disappeared my husband would be ringing me, my mum, my sister, me, my friends, me, work, me, hack into my Facebook, and then ring police, but the real police number, not 000! Also knowing kids and their lack of guile, my kids would have yabbered on about any unusual happenings. In addition my personal experience (from my husband having a particularly violent reaction from mixing alcohol and Pristiq) I felt frightened by what could happen so I took my kids and fled for the night to a friends. He had no recollection of his behaviour the next day - total blackout. IMO had Allison felt that things would escalate to physical violence she would have grabbed the kids and "run" - I think she was given NO warning at all and while there may have been a disagreement I feel that it would have been an explosive event that completely took her by surprise and that she would have been physically and emotionally overwhelmed thinking this can't be happening to me. IMOO.
thanks to all who contribute in an "intellectual" capacity and bless all those who contribute their emotions, deep thoughts and share their "unmentionables". We are so obsessed with keeping up appearances that it is quite often to the detriment of the ones keeping the bravest faces.