Would you be just as sad if it were the father saying that? Are women not allowed to work demanding jobs AND be parents (as men do all the time) without feeling guilty about it?
I think the saddest thing is that they only saw HIM so much. Who puts kids in cars in lieu of babysitting, his ONLY job. Who deserts their first born child and puts the mother through 10-12 years of debilitating, endless court motions trying to get justice for their child. Who leaves their baby in a hot car to die so he can play video games for hours.
yes I would, I was blessed with parents who were very involved.
exactly. It's not about the mother being the breadwinner. It's about the father NOT being a responsible candidate for the role of stay at home dad. The fact that the children spend the lion's share of their time with him is indeed sad. Sad for them, sad for mom. JMO
I don’t think that’s what the poster meant
I live 10 or 15 miles south of the Scholtes in a 2 year old house that is similar to theirs. We looked at several developments before choosing this one, I didn’t see any that offered AC in the garage.
it wasn't , i was sad for the mother as well.
She came home at 4 pm the day her daughter was left in the car. Who's to say she doesn't have a 9 to 5 job already?
He didn't forget. He left her there on purpose and then apparently forgot to come out and get her.
He knew the engine would shut off after 30 minutes, he admitted. So he forgot about the car shutting down, he forgot she was out there. He didn't look around for her, inside, for the 3 hours she was in the car. Did he care if she had dirty diapers? He lied to the police about when he got home, trying to minimize his actions. I can't think of a single reason to defend him.
An early msm article quoted the father saying “Sorry Babe.” It was later updated to reflect the correct quote from the affidavit.
I guess if the dad had been a responsible stay-at-home parent, the situation would have been pretty good, because at least the mom had fun vacationing with them. Not too different from past traditional marriages where the husband was in the role of busy breadwinner. The sad part is that he let her down in that role, in the worst way imaginable.
If we're looking for who the kids spent the lion's share of time with, it wasn't the dad, it was the car. Dad was otherwise engaged.
I don't know how she could think he was responsible after how he treated his first born. I guess ES might not of known, given he was probably able to intercept the mail from the court given that he didn't appear to ever work outside the house. But the actions against him started in 2012 or maybe even 2010. Hiding something like that, so very irresponsible towards a minor, for 12 or even 14 years? Why would he be expected to show responsibility for his next 3 kids?
She likely was in denial, not wanting to see, or making excuses as to why the past was different.
Yeah, anyone who's been around a toddler knows that if they're quiet, it means trouble, and you immediately need to find them and stop whatever they're getting up to.
