Answer:
Here is the way this thing looks: How can an apparition show itself, if it has no self?
That is the answer. The narcissist has no self, no sense of who he is. There are no
core values, no code ethics, an empty shell. Is this clearer now? To experience a
narcissist, to feel for a narcissist, to put faith in a narcissist, is one life lesson you will
not forget. NO- Emphatically! This is a person who will lie to gain whatever he needs
to feed his supply source of endless need. The need of unconditional love, admiration,
kudos, adoration, approval, applause, more, more, more. Then, you? You are his
supply. You are a mirror on the wall; meant only to show him his perfect image. You ?
You are gone because he will suck the life out of you. That man who so charmed you,
loved you,cherished and adored you, now finds no value in you, and he is gone. Truth,
no truth. The most consumate of actors. He will tell you he has been faithfull always,
when he has never. He will lie, over, and over, he cares nothing for your tears.
He has no empathy. This I tell you..
1.) -RUN-NOW-DON'T-LOOK-BACK-EVER-KNOW HIM WELL THROUGH THE MISTAKE OF OTHERS LIKE ME.
2.)-DON'T PUT FAITH IN OPINIONS OF HIM MADE BY OTHERS. HE IS CHARMING AND CAN BE VERY PERSUASIVE.
3.)-DON'T WORK ON ASSUMPTION- THE BEST PSYCHIATRISTS HAVE DIFFICULTY WITH THIS DIAGNOSIS, AND THEY HAVE TOOLS-SUCH AS-THE A.P.A. BIBLE- DSM IV [Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders]
4.)-WRITE IT DOWN. NOW, GO WRITE DOWN EACH AND EVERY FAULT, YOU KNOW HE HAS MANY. LIST ALL THE INCONSISTANT BEHAVIOR, THE LIES YOU'RE AWARE OF. HIS JEALOSY(DON'T BE FLATTERED BY IT, YOU'RE AN OBJECT) HIS EMPTY CORE THAT CAN'T BE FILLED.
5.)-HIS HIGHS AND HIS LOWS, WILL SUCK THE LIFE OUT OF YOU.
6.) IF YOU HAVE TO THINK OF THE INCEPTION OF THIS RELATIONSHIP-HIS INTENSE NEED OF YOU? THEN REMEMBER IT WAS A PLOY; MEANT ONLY TO LURE YOU, GAIN YOUR APPROVAL, AND THEN ASAULT YOU WITH HIS DARK SIDE.
7.) IF YOU STAY WITH HIM UNDERSTAND THIS; YOU WON'T SURVIVE WITHOUT STRONG SUPPORT AND COUNSELING. YOU WON'T CHANGE HIM. AND NO, HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU-NO. I DON'T WISH TO HURT YOU, I CAN IMAGINE YOUR PAIN. I KNOW YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO LEAVE, EVEN IF YOU THINK NOT.
References
DSM-IV-TR Handbook of Differential Diagnosis
M.D., First, Michael B. , M.D., Frances, Allen , M.D., Pincus, Harold Alan
American Psychiatric Publishing, Inc. (2002)
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Arlington, VA 22209-3901
Malignant self Love
Ph.D. Vaknin, Sam (2007)
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