I keep thinking of that happy innocent 9 year old girl put in the 'care' of two drug-addicted convicted criminals, one of whom shoots up in a public toilet, <modsnip>
The grandparents, into whose care she was placed by a court, must have been on another planet to let her be with KM and JS unaccompanied.
There has been a lot of criticism of the grandparents, but the grandfather's testimony explained very well why they allowed Charlise to spend Christmas with her mother.
Firstly, they were "under the impression that both [Kallista and Stein] had cleaned their act up."
Secondly, they were under the impression that Charlise would be with Kallista, Kallista's fiance
and her fiance's mother, and that they would all be based at Wildenstein, with a short holiday by the river as well. So even if they had concerns about drug use, they probably assumed Stein's mother's presence provided an extra level of safety for Charlise as well as some confirmation that Kallista and Stein were indeed clean and sober. Obviously Stein's mother wasn't there, but the grandparents weren't to know that.
Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly,
Charlise wanted to go. She loved her mother with an "unconditional love," hoped Justin would be a "good father" and cried when a previous holiday with her mother had to be cancelled. The grandparents kept in regular contact with Charlise until she was killed, and they had no reason to believe she was unsafe or unhappy.
As I've said before, it's extremely difficult for grandparents with custody of children to balance concern for the safety of the child with the child's emotional needs. Charlise, quite reasonably, had a longing to spend time with her mother, and it would have been very difficult for the grandparents to say no all the time.
Moreover, if Kallista was clean as they supposed, they may have felt it likely she would sue for full custody, or at least increased custody. Allowing Charlise some time with her mother may have been a strategic move to maintain the status quo, i.e. to avoid turning Kallista into an enemy, and to stop her going to the courts and saying "my parents won't even let me spend Christmas with my own daughter." Courts are often inclined to want to reunite children with their mothers, and that would have been a frightening prospect for Charlise's grandparents.
The grandparents are not to blame for Charlise's death. They weren't "on another planet." They were the only stable, loving family this little girl had, and they gave her a happy and safe childhood. They certainly don't need anyone reminding them that the holiday that resulted in their beloved granddaughter's death was not a great idea. They deserve all the compassion we have.
The person to blame for Charlise's death is the person who shot her. Let's save our outrage for the killer.