The mother of Benjamin James Milward has left flowers at the makeshift tribute site set up for Sophie Collombet in the South Brisbane park where she was killed.
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I dont think I could do that. Ive never been in Dianne Milwards position and pray to God I never am. But I couldnt, not yet anyway .Maybe in time and in private.
I understand people do things different and Im probably more different than others but no.
Isis am I way off with this thinking?
Jumping on the bandwagon here - maybe you can comment in on my opinion too IR...
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I compare the response of Diana Milwards to the Gittany family and RL.
Very different approaches.
What I see from DM is an attempt of showing some humility and respect for Sophie in amongst the angst of a having to deal with the reality that her son was involved in Sophie's death. I see it as her separating herself from her son in a way.
I cant recall another incident where the parent of the perpetrator has so openly grieved at the shine of the one that their child has murdered.
It could be said it takes lot of courage to do what she is doing - but I think it would take a lot of Soul searching and coming to terms firstly with what she had perceived to be a good son, to suddenly be made aware of the actuality of the depth of his utter treachery, dishonesty, brutal and murderous nature. I wouldn't know to reconcile that immediately.
She did not murder Sophie - her son did. But as his mother she may be taking on the guilt and blame for his actions.
The reality will set in as the sentence is handed down - and then possibly the anger phase will show its head.
If her intention and purpose to visit Sophie's shire is in alignment with her true
feelings and understanding of the situation, and she is genuine - I cant decide if her visit is 'right' or 'wrong' - maybe its not about that type of judgement. She is doing what she thinks is right, but I think her feelings of grief is different than the parents who have to deal with the loss of their daughter.
Her position is one I would never hope to find myself in - from the action of another that placed me there to deal with something so horrendous - I really don't know, if it was me, how I would respond and react.
I dont think she is standing by her son thinking that he didn't do this, I think she is there because he did do it. (if that makes sense)
(JMHO)
