rsd1200
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I have a number of alcoholics in my family. At the end, eating was not exactly a consideration. Not even clear how well food was being tolerated. And because this was a medical family, and some years back, Valium became a drug of choice in order to make it through the day without appearing to be drinking. It's a really ugly way to die. What really jarred me about your ex was the broken femur. The femur is the strongest bone in the body, surrounded by really strong muscle. A broken one is incredibly painful, owing to the muscles contracting and pushing broken bone ends against tissue (or through skin). And yet, having seen what an alcoholic near death and steeped in denial looks like, I absolutely believe you. Everything in life gets put off until tomorrow, or after the next drink, or until they get sober again (which in the end is never). Cunning and baffling disease, as they say.
It's terrible. I've lost count of the friends I've lost to alcoholism. I'm not talking a few beers here and there or a weekend warrior, I'm talking a 12 pak a day, when we were together, through the week and at the very least a case, a day, on Fri-Sun. I could not believe he broke his femur either. After he got in a safe zone they re-broke it, and went in and made a wire cage around the bone and tried to put in a rod (iirc). It never really took and his body was still not fully recovered, so, infection formed, and all kinds of other stuff went wrong, so his body would try to shut down. It was just pitiful. He nearly died several times but always came back, then that cancer just took off (He was a chain smoker too. At least three packs a day before the bone break.). The malnutrition was at the root of the break, they said his bones had become very brittle and powder like. He broke the other leg, because he forgot they removed the other, broken, leg, and got out of bed to go to the restroom. Malnutrition wreaks havoc on the mind and body. That is why I think that they are putting the adult kids in a care facility. They've suffered from it longer, perhaps, and need a watchul eye and all of the handails, and safety features in place.