Good analysis! Had not thought of clothing in bag being there to put back on when returning from school to fool mom... since she left for school after her mom left, agree about the makeup... I cannot remember if she got home after her mom did? Otherwise, no need for clothing deception...
My daughter used to leave for school (at age 13) after I left for work. So when I left, she was in a t-shirt and flannel PJ pants. She got home an hour before I did, and was generally in comfy clothes when I got home.
One morning I got to work and found her homework assignment among my belongings. I worked a mile from the school so I decided to wait until she arrived, meet her in the lobby, and give her the assignment. Her friends all knew/liked me, so I wasn't worried I would "embarass" her if I showed up.
The school dress code did not allow PJ pants, and was pretty stringent about the acceptable width of the straps on a tank top, exposed/visible undergarment straps, transparent clothing, and shorts or skirts that did not meet a certain length requirement, so I knew I did not see what she was wearing to school, but I did know most of the clothing in her wardrobe, and figured she was wearing a t-shirt, jeans, sneakers, and a hoodie to school like all the other kids (farm town).
At that age, she was extremely slender. Close to 5' tall, but in the 90 pound range, and physically "undeveloped" so I was SHOCKED, HORRIFIED, MORTIFIED when I got to the school and walked into the lobby to see her holding court among her friends dressed like a (no offence intended) transvestite prostitute. I am still wondering why the school allowed this, as nobody had ever called me concerned about her attire. She'd put together an outfit that included a mini skirt with the waistband folded under to make it even shorter, fishnet thigh-high stockings from Halloween (the stocking tops and part of each thigh were exposed, which I felt was really over-the-top), a pair of high heels we'd gotten her for the Homecoming dance, and a satin corset. As in lingerie. It was solid black with hooks up the back and boning all around. It had thin shoulder straps, and was something she had gotten her dad to buy her for Renaissance Festival.
Her friends were not "reacting" so I can only assume this was typical of her "style" until that day, when I banned black anything, thong anything, fishnet anything, corsets, and thigh high anything until she was older.
As for some comments about schools calling (or not) when a student is absent or late, our local schools (my BFs kids attend public school) robo-call parents around dinner time to tell them. I guess it is to be sure an adult will be home and the call will not be intercepted by the truant student. BUT...
When my daughter began high school, we had just moved from one community to another, and I was commuting an hour to work. The third day of school, mini-me overslept and missed her bus. She called me, and I told her that she was going to have to walk. It was a couple of miles, and as I said, a small community, so I was not concerned for her safety, but knew she would be there half an hour before I could even get to the house to pick her up, and felt it might teach her a lesson.
Several weeks passed and I got a call at my office from "the attendance office at the high school". When I picked up the call, the woman on the other end asked me if I could explain why my daughter had only been to school three days so far that year. I started freaking out, thinking that she was just oversleeping every day, blowing off school, and totally scamming me, ever since the day I made her walk. I was livid.
I asked for the phone number of the person I was speaking to so that I could investigate and call back. When she gave it to me, I realized she was calling from the high school my daughter WOULD have attended had we not moved the prior June. At that point, my question was no longer "Why did you wait so long to call?" but "Why do you have her marked
present on three days, when she has never attended the school, and does not even have a schedule of classes there?"