I wish the wife, ex-wife, girlfriend, ex or common law wife, whomever she was, would tell the outside world what transpired. They have the ability to change voices, put people in dark rooms, what's the point of keeping silent? Her community certainly knew who she was.
I think we'd collectively feel better if we knew more and didn't have to fill in the blanks.
The point of being silent is that this is about their very private lives. Much as I might wish to know details some of these people could provide, there is no reason for them to sacrifice their privacy so that I can make more sense of the story.
Eventually, what we need to know in order to understand this, think about what might have changed it, and respond, will come out, relayed though more formal channels.