Oh, Emmabella!!! This is sort of like being exposed to suicide, and wondering what, if anything, you could have done. The answer: nothing - unless you were with that person at the very moment they committed the act. I have personal experience with this. I had a very good friend who wanted me to leave with him from a party one night. I was at the party with my boyfriend, who has now been my husband of MANY years. I told my other friend that wanted me to leave with him, (who was having problems with his wife), that I could not leave with him. He left and shortly thereafter, killed himself. I felt horrible, and blamed myself for a long time. Since then, I have come to realize that even if I had gone with him, it would not necessarily have changed the final outcome. Ultimately, you cannot control other people. Melissa had a large family that saw her daily, and they did not even notice that something was wrong. Hang tough Emma. This case and the pain it is causing many, many, people outside of the immediate families that are involved, is a great example of how sin and evil have a ripple affect throughout society. Emma, you are a wonderful person, and your insight can help all of us who are now hurting cope with this. We will probably never understand what happened......but we will always try to understand. Your insight into Melissa'a past is very valuable to society.....please keep helping us, and we will most definitely be there for you.